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I had had 2 miscarriages over the last ten years the second one 5 years ago and couldn't or didn't get pregnant so they put me on fertility treatment which didn't work so we gave up. my son who I had when I was 22 broke his neck 4 years ago so we put trying to the back of our mind and decided to stop trying when I reached 40. 8 week ago I realised I was pregnant and I am now 43 so was shocked and went into complete panic mode (because of my age and my son now needing 24 hr care from his dad and I) but I have just the best GP and he thought it was a miricle and we deserved some good and happy news so we became excited as did our son. well once again the pregancy didn't last and last week they couldn't find a heartbeat so again I have miscarried for the third time. thing is before I knew that although we were biterly disappointed I was still young enough to try again and now my mind is so jumbled up because I don't feel we have that choice because I am now to old at 43. we didn't even get much sympathy this time around and I know people are saying it was for the best because of our son and because of my age which is totally wrong.
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Alison:
You are not too old. I'm sorry to hear about your loss :( I say if you're healthy and feel you have the energy to take care of an infant - then go for it! Have you found out why you are miscarrying for the last two times?
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No they never said, just it was unusual to have 3 miscarriages in a row after a normal pregancy but the first wasn't normal in that I bled then to and suffered from pre-eclampsia and had him at 32 weeks. feel everybody (family anyway) thought and think I am stupid and I am so easily upset re other peoples opinions. I would really if I am honest like to try again even if was for just a couple of months more but my head is a mess and I know I am running out of time age wise.
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Alison, I'm sorry for your losses and for what has happened to your son too. There is no reason your life and plans have to end just because you have a son who is paralyzed unless maybe if it will break you financially and emotionally. Of course, it changes things a lot but your life goes has to go on. You do have your hands full but it seems like a baby could bring some much needed joy and brighten things up in your home. Ignore what other people say and be true to your own heart and mind--only you and your husband can really know if you can emotionally and financially handle having a child right now. Your opinions are the only ones that you should follow. Good luck.
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I worry about what other people think but then just go ahead and do what i like anyway. once you are in your forties you get one good egg out of five on average, so it is a numbers game. I am 44 and will be 45 when i have this baby, i had three miscarriages prior to this pregnancy but just had to try 'one more time'... now well into second trimester and feeling fit and well.
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thanks everyone, I think deep down I would like to try one more time and like you marranie if I fell pregnant I would be 44 by the time I had it.
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