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Hiya kdawn770, Sorry to hear about your situation and I think it would be very difficult. I don't understand why coworkers would be looking at you wierd because your preggers, there are lots of women waiting until their a bit older to have children, so honestly don't even worry about that. I'm 35 and I'm not worried about how I'll be percieved and I have 12 and 13 year olds. I also understand about your husbands work situation, it must be a major worry right now but I think you really just have to hang in there and know it'll be ok. It's only March and alot can happen between now and July, just keep your chin up and try to think about all the positive things in your life. I think that as bad as it may seem, that will turn around for you. We all experience ups and downs and have moments where things don't seem like they can get much worse but then something happens to change everything and things start to look up. I really hope you can work through this and enjoy the little bundle you have growing. Good luck to you

Wow I am really sorry that things are not as happy for you at this precious time as they should be! But yes, life will turn around! As for the age, well, I am 41 and TTC! I don't care what any one thinks! Google how many ladies are waiting till past 35 for kids. There are more fathers in the 35 age bracket than in the 25 right now, what does that tell you. Some people still have the old mental mentality that you are too old, nonesense!! My doc said she see's lots of ladies my age preggers!! Lots with their first!! My kidss are 17, 16 and 13! But I want another baby!! I am with a great man with only one child, and has always wanted one more. It just was never right for him before. Well, it is now, and so we are TTC since Jan. 2010. Every thing will work out!! Trust in the Lord and ride the wave of life. It goes up, it goes down. LOL hang out where with the ladies!! they are so so supportive. A lot of us are in the forum, TTC 2010 something something, it is usually at the top of this one. Come check it out!!!

Thanks ladies. I was hoping someone had commented by this morning. Been a super tough morning already and it's just started. So much emotional turmoil - and I'm already on Effexor for depression (doc approved, of course) and wondering if something is going on there to make this all worse. Anyway, I appreciate your encouraging words. Goodness knows I need some encouragement!

Oh and don't worry about the anti-depression meds while pregger!! I have severe major depression. I took meds through all three of my pg and while b___st feeding them all. they are all perfect and healthy and two have higher than ususal IQ's!! Both very smart kids. only problem right now is they are teen-agers!! which I am told they will outgrow one day . . . . . . . . LOL

Hey, thanks for that. Even though both my doctors gave the ok, it's still a little unnerving to take them (kind of ironic!). It's nice to hear from someone firsthand who has taken them without incident.

I know lots of other ladies too that took meds while pg. they are safer than the used to "think" they were. I think they really didn't know, so they forbid everything. But there is no way I can stop my meds. I take as low of a dose as I can, but I still have to take them. I am usually one two meds, I drop to one and so that is a big change for me. I have to monitor myself closely. Be happy at this time, the baby will feel your worry. Think of how wonderful it will be to hold that baby for the first time in your arms!! It is a miracle and Miracles are alwasy right!!!

You're awesome. I really needed to hear all of this. Incidentally, I don't suppose you or anyone you know has interviewed while pregnant? I'm at a really dead-end, totally unfulfilling job right now and have been selected to possibly interview for a position with the state that is in my home town (i commute 45 minutes each way to work every day - about 60+ miles 1 way). It'd be a great opportunity, but I don't know what to expect going to an interview while pregnant. I suspect they would definitely opt for someone that ISN'T! Any experience with that?

no, I have not. But you know, that doesn't mean you won't get the job. How long are you taking mat leave for?? if you are only taking 6 -12 weeks, they may not care if you are really qualified. I say, go for it!!! You have nothing to lose!

My current company is very small, so I'll have about 3 weeks built up in sick and vacation time and they have no maternity policy. I'm trying to negotiate for an additional 4 weeks. Yes, you're right, I have nothing to lose. It would be ideal, I think. First time in about 2 years that a job has opened up in our small town with the state like this. Just breaks my heart to think of having to cart him off to daycare that soon and leave him to someone else to basically raise. With my hubby's previous employment, we were planning on him keeping the baby home with him as much as possible (we lived on the ranch that he managed) and having family help now and then when he needed it. Now, the only option is daycare. That's the biggest issue with all of this that has me so distraught.

oh, well, you know, start looking at them now and find one you really like! Sadly we live in a world that we have to both work in. I moved to Canada 12 years ago, and life here is very different! But I had to work while i had my kids there! I was an RN at the time, so I could choose shifts. But I would have loved to been the one to put my babies to sleep and read them their story at bed time. But I couldn't. One thing I did notice, and still do, kids that are in daycares, are better socialy when older. they are less withdrawn. My two youngest were in day care young. I divorced their dad. and I notice their personality is way different than my oldest that was not in day care early.

Again, good encouragement. Thanks. Only thing is, in the small town I'm in, there is ONE daycare, and it leaves much to be desired. I just have to chill, and trust God and take this one day at a time - anything else, and I'll just cause myself and the baby more stress and anxiety and it will serve no purpose. Ugh. Learning not to worry - even after almost 40 years, I'm still trying to learn...

LOL aren't we all!!! LOL One day at a time. that is all we can control!

And sometimes barely even that!

hello, I have never experienced anyone looking down on me for being pregnant at a later age. I had my first at 39 and my second at 42.(She is 5 months) I think in this day and age..anyone who is looking at you funny..must be jealous or downright insecure in their own right. Why judge? Try not to feel judged. Our bodies are meant to produce until our mid 40's naturally and any pregnancy is a true blessing. I wish you all the best with your pregnancy and beyond!! Btw..I am thinking of having one more :) Tell your co workers to put that in their pipe and smoke it.. ;)