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ok..so im 19yrs old and im 9week pregnant. i just told my mom and she really hasnt said anything but tonight i was about to leave from work and my mom called me asking me when i was gonna go to the doctors and i told her as soon as i find one because shes not helping me and the father of my baby is in the army so hes not here with me right now so he cant help me either..so im pretty much doin it by myself for a month until he comes home anyways she called me and said that i cant move out of the house and that ill have to live without the father of my baby untill he gets outta the army in 3 years...is it me...or is that nuts?...how does she think that im just gonna stay away for my soon to be husband and my baby is gonna go 3years with only seeing his father once in a while..thats nut....can someone tell me why shes acting like this???
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Because she is trying to take care of HER baby...that is you....and her soon to be grand baby. Taking care of a new born is very difficult, you have NO idea. You WILL need your mothers help and you will need the fathers help. When you have your baby, you will understand everything your mother did to torture you when you were younger and you will thank her for it. Maybe try listenening to her and accepting her help and advice.
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It sounds like your mom is just worried about you and how you are handling things. I don't want to sound pushy, but you really should visit a doctor as soon as possible to get your care started. You said you will be getting married soon. That is good--you will have access to medical care. In the meantime, do you have a Planned Parenthood in your area? They can help you find the care you need. You have a LOT to handle at such a young age. Good luck.
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hi, I had my first son when I was 19 and was about to get married, my mom did a similar thing in that she strongly sugested that I stay home after I got married as I would need all the help I could get. looking back she was right. it is hard enough to have a baby at 19 with out the added strain of being newly married on top. my first son will be 17yrs old this sept and my youngest son is 14yrs old, I am now 35yrs and 14 weeks preg with my 3rd baby. let your mom help out but if you and your husband to be have a house available on the army grounds then I would either go to stay with your mom for a few days after the baby is born or even ask her to come and stop at yours to help out after the baby is born.
either way talk to your mom and find out why she said what she did. and try not to forget that you will always be her baby and she only wants what is best for you. good luck
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