Detached Boyfriend Normal
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Since this pregnancy started, my boyfriend said it felt sureal. Okay now my belly has popped and I feel as if he's repulsed by me. He doesn't want to touch my belly, feelng the baby kick freaked him out. He doesn't want to have s_x. He sent him an article about "baby kicks" and he wrote this long email that he can't feel excited about a kicking baby when we're having problems financially; we may lose my house. But it's my house wich he hasn't helped with so why is he so worried. I'm prepared for this because I'm tired of life being a constant struggle and every penny I make goes into this house and bills. I feel as if it may be a blessing and whats so bad with renting until we get back on our feet as a couple. He's not in the position to help save it so why is he so stressed over it?? I just feel so alone and all I get is excuses. Just venting, but wondering if it's normal for fathers to be so detached from pregnancies? It makes me feel as if this all was a mistake? I'm 21 weeks and enbracing every minute of it. advice??
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Hi BQlilu,
I am so sorry to hear about what you're going through. You sound incredibly upbeat considering the circ_mstances! Good for you! I don't think there's really any "normal" when it comes to how people feel about anything; It's all on an individual basis. My guess is that he's probably scared about suddenly having the responsibility of caring for another human's life, especially since it sounds like he can't really help out even with things the way they currently are. It's a lot to take on for sure. My husband and I were married for almost one year when I got pregnant with our first...we had planned the pregnancy but I could tell that once it actually became a reality my husband got scared. Fortunately for me, he didn't treat me any differently but everyone handles it differently.
Have you discussed in detail the things that you revealed in your post? Such as being a little relieved that you may be able to live in an apartment, etc.? Maybe he'd feel a little more at ease with things if he knows what your expectations are.
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