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I am kinda in the same position as sashasmama is. I am haveing a boy and I have been researching circ_msision cause my fiancee and I need to decide. I am really leaning towards absolutly not but I dunno

chiyochan, I have decided to have the circ_mcision for the sole reason that I want my son to be the same as his father. I would not want my ds to one day see his daddy's p___s and wonder why his was so different.

I have an 11 month old son who is not circ_mized. He has had no problems whatsoever and neither does his father (who is also uncirc_mized.) I didn't circ_mize my son, not because his father isn't, but because I don't have that right. It's his body, not mine and I wouldn't get him a tattoo so why would I cut a part of his body off? It's simply not my choice to make.

I'd say talk to your doc. I haven't had an appt with him since I found out the gender so I'm still not entirely sure what we're doing. But here's what I got from a friend in medical school... it's a personal choice, but the american academy of pediatrics recommends circ_mcision because there is some evidence that it can help prevent infection and some penile cancers. However, the AAP's recommendations have changed many times, for all anybody knows they could change their mind next year and say there is no medical evidence that it makes any difference. So in my mind it is mostly a personal choice. It is a relatively simple procedure that may decrease health risks. Also it is much easier to do at infancy than later in life. Another consideration is matching son to father. Overall I encourage circ_mcision, but if parents feel strongly against it, I can respect their decision.

I agree with NOT getting it done unless there is a legitimate medical reason why it has to be done. Personally I think that parents who use the cop-out excuse about cleanliness or 'to be the same as his father', are just too lazy to teach their children about proper hygiene. For you women useing the 'to look like his father' excuse, would you get your daughter a b___b job just because hers didn't look like yours when she grew up? Of course you wouldn't, that would be stupid. Unless you live in a country that doesn't have access to clean running water, why would you choose to mutilate (yes mutilate) your son? Would you do that to your daughter? In some countries it is perfectly normal to do female circ_mcision, yet even the mention of it will get most people up in arms, so why is it 'ok' to do it to our little boys? What right do we have to tamper with our kids genitals, & decide what they should look like? Circ_mcision has become nothing but a fashionable thing, which is wrong, we should NOT be forcing it upon our boys unless there is a legitimate medical reason to do so.

i have to say i don't agree with the "to be like daddy" reason at all. i would rather they be different than daddy then have to explain why i chose to have an unnecessary surgery done that has no real benefits. the whole "it's cleaner" excuse is bunk and i say if it ain't broke, don't fix it.

megan: actually, the aap doesn't "recommend" it so much as they list what they feel are "benefits". they have said they can't recommend it based on the fact there are no real benefits to it. based on the study that was incorrectly done, it can help prevent the male from getting std's, but it can also encourage the spreading of an std if the male has one. kind of a double edged sword there, imo. i totally agree it is a personal choice, and as i'm sure you can tell i am very much anti-circ_mcision, but i also feel that as long as the parent knows all the FACTS and not just "well i've heard it does this" and they make a well educated decision, i have no choice but to respect their judgment because, hey, it is their kid and all. i get to make my choice when i have a boy so i'm forced to be pro-choice on circ_mcision lol. ooh ooh i'm pro-educated!! there we go =P

E586467- It is neither a cop-out or a laziness issue that I want my son to look like his father in that department. It is a personal choice- a decision both myself and dh have decided together. I do not think of it as mutilation, it has been tradition in my family to be circ_msized and no man, not even my dh, considers themselves "mutilated."

I just found out last week I am having a boy and my husband and I have both discussed that we will get our son circ_msized for sure. They say its best 8 days after the baby is born. Of course this is a choice up to you, but I prefer the look of a circ_msized p___s lol, sorry haha.

I dont know what i am having yet but me and my husband both agreed very early on that we will get the baby circ_mcised. My husband had it done and we want our son to have it done as well. i want them too look the same. other wise it could be hard to tell your son when you husband is potty training him why his looks different then daddy. and i feel its just to hard on the kid to get it done after they are a baby... but its your own choice

Hi, I did not have either of my son's circ_msized, when I heard another baby crying when he got his I realized I just could not do it, plus it's really not necessary, my sons are fine and have not ever had a uti yet. I wash them well, I also use really good diaper cream. The medicated ointment, plus I bath them every night. I find it keeps bacteria from festering in their privates Its entirely up to you, but I just could not do that to my sons and also their are so many nerves, I just feel there is no point in it for my children

I had my ds 10 y ago and his father wasn't circ_msized so we decided to not bother getting ds done either. Since that time I've remarried and my current darling dh is circ_msized and I can tell you from a s_xual perspective that I think circ_mcision is the way to go. It's much cleaner and sorry for tmi but doesn't retain any scent of urin. I know we don't like to think of our sweet little boys ever needing to worry about that or being in that type of position but it's pretty much inevitable and so if I have a boy this time around I will definetly be going with the circ_mcision.

rcmiller obviously if there was a smell then your last husband WASN'T hygienic enough. I have been with my hubby for over 10yrs & have NEVER had a problem with the smell (or anything else) of his p___s, & he is not circ_mcised. Just make sure your son knows the importance of hygiene so he too won't have the same problem as his father did when you were with him. I know some men are just plain gross about it & give the uncirc_mcised p___s a bad name, but honestly if they pull back the foreskin & clean underneath when they are showering they won't have any problem with smell etc.

My first is and if this one is a boy he will too. My ds didnt even wake up during the procedure! And it healed with in the week after. I dont want to risk him getting anything later in life and having to have it dont as a teen or adult ! GL with your choice!

My first son is and this one will be too. Good luck with your decision.

i have a 2 yrs and 8 mnth old girl, and now im 15 weeks pregnant with a boy. yes we will circ_msize.actually we didnt think twice about it cz its for religous purposes and it has to be done..but every baby boy i know had it done without any complications and it usually heals within 2 days