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HI ladies I'm nearly 22 wks due 15th october. I'm from Australia and have a beautiful 19mth old boy Ryan. We tried to find out what we were having but even though they thought maybe a girl becasue they couldn't see any "bits & pieces" she couldn't be sure. She couldn't be sure so she wouldn't give a confident answer and said wwe would find out in October. Its nice to read all your stories. I'm glad you are all progressing well. MissP how is the bedrest? Is it becasue of the amniotic fluid?

Thanks girls for the kind wishes and prayers. Had the amnio today. It was painful as there isn't alot of amniotic fluid so the consultant took a while to do it, but he was very careful. He confirmed again on the ultrasound all the abnormalities. The low fluid is likely as baby's kidneys aren't working so he/she isn't pa__sing urine, the placenta is very over-sized which is common in chromosomal defects, and baby's measurements are wrong. There is a serious heart defect and various other abnormal features of baby. Though he/she is hanging in there and the heart is still beating. So we get the first results Wednesday then the full ones in a few weeks. The consultant seemed pretty sure though of the situation, and seems to think I have a good chance of going into labour in the next few weeks because of how things are looking in there. He doesn't have much hope for the pregnancy. So all we can do is take it one day at a time and hold onto God. Praying that He might do a miracle, and if not that He will carry us through this. I've been resting today and my MIL is coming over tomorrow so I can rest then too. Thanks again for your thoughts and prayers it means alot. Hope you are all doing ok. Love Ali xxxx P.s) Kylie hi (Iknow Kylie who just joined the thread she is lovely!) xxxx

hi ladies.. how is everyone feeling.. don't you get sick of answering that sometimes.. lol... though i realize that everyone is just trying to be nice.. but if i truely told them how i feel.. like i haven't pooped in 4 days and i toss and turn all night.. i'm sure they would think it was an over share.. haha.. anyway kylie, the same thing happen to me.. but i lucked out.. and have to get another u/s because they couldn't get alll the measurements that they needed. so i'm actually happier cause i get to see my little one an extra time, and i'll be 24 weeks, so the baby will be nice and big for a clear picture.. and Alison.. i'm still thinking about you.. hoping when you get the 1st test results they will be better news.. hang in there.. and get some rest ( well try at least!) ..

Alison thank you for the update. I am SO sorry to hear you are going through this. Please keep us updated on the results from Wednesday. Again- I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better or make this seem right but I obvioulsy don't have any words besides I am here to listen and am praying for you all!

Hi girls, hope your all ok - Alison i feel so sad when i read your post, im so worried now as i too have low amniotic fluid and now theyve spotted a mature placenta - both signs of possible stillbirth or premature baby - i still havent been able to see a consultant here in the UK since i got here last friday, so im going to try to push for one this week with an us. I just want to let you know im praying that your pregnancy is viable and that your little bean hangs in there - if the worst happens and he dosnt make it, we will all still be here for you and there are some amazing girls who post on the pregnancy loss thread on this site. Im a regular there myself having had a mc at 12wks just before this pregnancy. Its helped me so much to find ladies who had ben through that experienc who rally care for each other and offer great support. I will keep you in my prayers, and all the best to you. To the other ladies, glad your all ok and holding up. Im 23wks 2days and feeling enormous. I went to see the midwife this morning who thought i was a month further on than i am. I expailned to her about both the complications im having and she said she would try and gt me checked out asap. Its worrying for me, and given Alisons experience, you can imagine whats going through my head, but so far all the scans have shown him to be ok and healthy. My placenta is not healthy though, so thats my worry. I havent had much rest either as iv just moved long distance and am so busy doing things. Anyway on that note id better go and sleep, but just hoping that you are all ok. Take care x x

Hi girls, I had a friend over on the weekend and she took some candid photos out back (she's a photographer) and she got this picture of me, and some with Dh in them, and it's a silhouette so you can see my belly and it looks like the sun is setting on my belly. It's freaking amazing. If anyone is on facebook, I'm Aryanna VonTetzel, if you'd like to see add me on. I can't believe how huge my belly is already. I know this is my third and all but this is ridiculous...LOL. Alison, I keep thinking of you all the time and praying for you. And I have my fingers crossed for you MissP.

Hey girls no phone call today so should hear tomorrow, We had a feeling it was more likely to be tomorrow before we heard. I've been taking it easy & resting. I can feel baby moving, it's comforting and heartbreaking all at once. Thanks everyone for the kind words and prayers you're all so sweet and thoughtful and it means alot. MissP I'm sorry to hear about your concerns, did they say how low your fluid is? They have a benchmark for normal and if you're a little under they mark it as low so I'm hoping yours is only low by a small amount. Mine is incredibly low, and the placenta very oversiszed which was both signs of a chromosonal defect (as well as the other signs) I hope you manage to see a consultant soon I'm susprised the midwife didn't arrange for one when you saw her, maybe that means the fluid didn't feel too majorly low when she examined you? I can imagine situations like mine make you think all sorts, but if your scans are showing baby to be ok and healthy then that is very different from my situation as my scans show clearly our baby is not at all healthy. I am actually amazed the heart is still beating away considering he/she must be a fighter. They noticed the 1st sign of concern back at 12 weeks and it's progressed since then. It's pretty beyond doubt at this stage it's a serious chromosonal defect, as I say there is lots showing up on the U/S with baby so please hold onto the fact your baby is looking normal and healthy. I will pray for you that you can go on as far as possible before giving birth and baby is nice and big and healthy and ready when the time comes to be born. Make sure they keep a close eye on you and scan you regularly. Yes the pregnancy loss forum is very supportive. I too have spent alot of time there in the past as I suffered 3 first trimester miscarriages before having my daughter (she's my first child) I made some good friends there and we still keep in touch. I always hoped I'd never have to go back there thinking I'd had my fill of loss in the past, and always felt grateful my losses were early and I was spared what I read some women going through, I'm praying for a miracle though that I might still be spared that late loss. I'm 21 weeks today. I've got quite a good sized bump. Love to all I'll update on the results, and MissP I'll be thinking of you and your lovely little one ((hugs)) xxxx

Hi Ladies!! It's been a while - I had a virus on my computer and couldn't get onto the internet. WOW... so much going on! First and foremost, Alison, my thoughts and prayers are with you! Remember, God only gives you what you can handle. I believe everything happens for a reason. Hang in there and know we're all praying and thinking about you! I'm right around 22-24 weeks - my u/s showed me to be 2 weeks early. Ashley - I haven't pooped in 2 days if it makes you feel any better : ) Sleeping is becoming such a dreaded chore! I'm sooooo super tired but I can't get comfortable! I did go golfing yesterday - that was a blast! My girlfriends and I golf a few times a month (weather permitting - I live in Chicago). They were all making fun of the elastic band in my shorts! We've got tee time set-up again in a few more weeks, but I don't think I can be hitting anymore b___s... it's getting too difficult. As I get further along, I'm becoming lazier and lazier... I used to LOVE going for my walks, now I'd rather just lay on the couch and eat chips! I've gained so much weight! Oh well... how are you ladies doing?

Well we still don't know. They called and my test was negative for the 3 most common (Down's Edwards & Patau syndrome) but of course we still don't have the full results which take 2 weeks so it might be something shows up on those (more rare) or nothing shows up - which means why do we have all these abnormal/concerning features...? I had already been booked in for a scan in 2 weeks (the consultant said "If I last that long") but I feel concerned about the very low levels of fluid and enlarged placenta so we asked if we can see someone sooner (I think the consultant wasn't interested in the fluid as he was so convinced baby had Edwards) So we just got another call back saying we have a call with a consultant tomorrow at 1.15pm to discuss things. So, it's more waiting and not knowing. It's good nothing showed up in the quick results but we still have the full results to come. I'll let you guys know what the consultant says tomorrow Ali xxxx

Wow Ali, this must be so confusing and stressful for you. Hang in there. Catsmommy, ,my last pregnancy I ate way too many chips and gained too much weight and man did I hate it later! I'm trying so hard to not do that this time! It's hard though. I cannot sleep ever, it's driving me crazy! Jen, what exactly is your due date? Mine is Oct.7, we're having a girl too!

hello ladies.. so last night i had my first taste of swollen feet.. i couldn't believe it.. i cound barely walk it hurt so bad.. so i sleep with my feet up in the air all night.. not fun.. i'm not ready for this part of pregnancy yet.. lol.. but i did realize why it happened.. because for dinner we grilled food.. burgers and dogs.. so i'm sure it was because i ate soo much salt... so watch out catsmommy,with those chips lol.. talk to you girls laterz!

Hey everyone. I recently posted that I had the best husband ever. I now officially have the worst husband ever. Im not going to give specifics as I am still trying to figure out whether to stay with him but lets say that we had one of the most loving incredible relationships ever and he left on a work trip and threw it all in the garbage. Im completely blindsided right now and kind of in shock I guess. Part of me wishes I were not pregnant with another one of his children. I hate telling you all this because I dont know you but I guess thats what works because I cant tell anyone else. I hate him. To make it all worse Ive been a very neglectful parent to both my unborn baby and my ds for the last 3 days because I cannot cope. Im not writing this for advice on whether or not I should stay with him. He is begging me to stay and telling me he loves me every 5 secs but I dont care. Im just so numb. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.

Oh Patience, I'm so sorry to hear that. It is easier to say things on here sometimes, that's for sure. I guess the biggest thing we all get on here is an ear to listen and empathy. Know that we're thinking of you too.

Hello everyone haven't been here in a min just so busy....baby has been moving moving moving all the time....i just felt him move from the outside this week very exciting for me and my son dh hasn't felt it yet....sry to hear things aren't going so well i will keep you all in my prayers.....Patience just pray baby that is the only thing that will get you through this believe me......everyone good luck and keep posting it really helps to tell somebody.....

Patience - Saird is right.... it's sometimes easier to let out a little steam on a forum like this! Not sure what your situation is but feel free to let it out! I've been getting into nasty, nasty arguments with my husband lately and it's not good! I'm mean to my daugther and I'm neglecting my health. With all the screaming and the tears, it totally affects my unborn baby! I have to leave the house for a few hours and literally catch my breath and calm down. I have no-one to talk to because I'm just embara__sed that I'm arguing with my husband and I'm pregnant! We almost split last summer. We patched things up and decided to try for another child... I should have left him when I had the chance! We got into our last fight over 1 week ago and we're finally talking to each other again... I know the "talking" won't last long! For the sake of our children, we're trying to work it out again! In any case... Do what you have to do for yourself, your unborn baby and your other child! Each situation is different, so depending on the severity of it, if you have to leave him then you should. I know it's difficult and you feel like you're stuck between a hard-spot and rock. I know I'm not the best person to be giving advice, but I wish you lots of luck and all the best! We are thinking of you and feel free to let it out!

Patience, so sorry to hear you are having some problems right now. Just try to take it easy without stressing because your baby is most important. Everything else will work itself out....good luck....I also wanted to let everyone know i was wrong. I'm having a baby girl. So happy! Prayers to all!