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hi tumby,just letting you know the latest in this horrible saga,i was at doctors earlier on in the week as i had terrible pain and some slight spotting,he told me to rest for 48 hours and luckily things have seemed to settle down.on the other hand he is still very confused about everything and stressing me more than ever,one day he doesnt know what he wants and the next he definatley doesnt want me but he will stand by the baby and be a weekend dad!ive seen what my other children have went through and i definatley didnt want this for this child.Whats more the way he has went on whos to say that he wont treat the baby like he has treated me and constantly let him or her down?i really dont know if i can take that chance. My brothers best friend who ive known for years and has kids of his own has advised me to get him right out of my life for the moment and concentrate on myself,the kids and the baby,he also said to make me feel better he would accompny me to all my scans,im friendly with his partner and she doesnt mind at all,bless!I still have back pain and get a strange looking discharge from time to time and thats more down to stress than anything i think so yesterday i got really brave and as much as it hurt me i rang him and told him the best thing was to get out of my life completely and that i was takeing a step out of the relationship!He said he was very confused but i stayed strong and told him i would pack all his stuff and to come and get it,he said he would support me financialy where he could and agreed! I also told him to get his parents told as i think to much of them for them to find out from someone else! i still have my strong suspisions of him and his ex but if thats what he nrrds to do to find out what an unearthly mistake he has made then so be it! God it hurts so much but i no its what i have to do to get my life in some sort of order,i feel so alone and i keep picturing all sorts of things with him and his ex but i cant go on lying awake at night wondering if he s gonna ring or text and wondering when im gonna see him again and when he s gonna want me and the baby.This is the hardest thing ive ever done.

Hey Lisa, I think your doing what's best for yourself and your kids. Rest and relax so that baby can grow strong. See if someone can't come over to help you pack his stuff and also to be there when he comes to get it. Moral support is good to have when you are breaking up. Follow the doctor's directions too. Eliminate the stress right now. I'm glad that your friends husband will help you through some of the visits to the doc. Let me know how it goes. I'm still praying for you and the kids. Big Hugs

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Hi caitlin, my name is Angela 18 and I am 6 months pregnant with a baby boy,, and I myself can understand the stress and pain in your heart , because I am going threw the same thing . There's nights when I sit alone and just think to myself all the things he's done to me , and how he's hurt me so many times. How hard it is when everyone thinks your crazy because you have so many hormones and your sad and depressed all the time. My boyfriend has hurt me over and over again , my heart has been broken so many times by him , he'll leave with his friends and will not come back for hours or even days , and he'll have me at his house , with all his family and there I am , an outsider a fool,,, he tells me he loves me and he cant wait till the baby's here, and even if i don't want him around , he's going to be around anyway, but he's not even around now, so everyday i stress and cry and , i try to do the best i can i'm working at a day care so my baby and i will be okay financially but in my heart everythings not okay, i'm hurting so bad because i love him , and he's the father of my first baby boy and it hurts to love some one so much , and not feel loved back. I guess the only love i know for sure that i'll have is my baby's love , so i think that's what keeps my broken heart going each day ,,, so just know you are not the only one out there who feels pain or sorrow ,,, but we have to be strong for our babies and yes it will be hard , there's no dought about that but if you've made it this far , then you will be fine ,, just remember there's nothing wrong with crying or even talking to your baby , cause he/she hears everything , and feels . so just take care of yourself and your baby,, and the lord will do the rest . god bless you and your baby.

Hey Caitlin- I just want you to know that I understand exactly what you are going through. I am 19 and I am going on 5 months pregnant. When my boyfriend found out I was pregnant things have changed so much and not for the better. I am alone and pregnant also and want you to know that it will get better. Just know that you aren't alone. And I hope things get better for you. This baby is a blessing so just think of your child and know that this baby will love you forever and unconditionally- you are the baby's mother and that is all the baby needs- your love. Good Luck and I hope things work out for you.

I am 26 and just found out I was pregnant 3 weeks ago. Initially, my boyfriend wanted to move in together and said he was happy and wanted to be a family. The supportiveness lasted all of three days. I found out this weekend (after I found the used condoms in his trash) that he has been cheating on me for probably two weeks before I even found out I was pregnant. No apologies, regrets or concern for me or the baby, all he cares about is recieving his property that he left at my house. I caught him cheating when I went to his place thinking I was having a miscarriage and he has not even asked if I or his child is ok. What is worse, he will only speak via email and makes everything legal lingo like he plans on going to court. He has not been there at all yet will not sign over his rights so I think he is going to abandon me until the baby is born, make me go through this completely alone and then try to get visitation. It is unfair but legal. All of the stress is causing me to sink into a very deep depression and I am having a hard time even making myself go to work. Things are falling apart. The thought of not having anyone to share sonograms with, naming the baby, the first kicks, etc, is very saddening. It is much easier for him to move on as he is not pregnant. It is not quite the same when you are pregnant and it would not be fair to anyone else I meet to walk in and date me while I am pregnant with someone elses child. I am just so sad and feel so alone. How is it so easy for someone who was supposed to care about you to just throw you away with no cares once you are pregnant?

I now exactly what your going through Im 19 yrs old and 6 months pregnant and my boyfriend well i guess exboyfriend left me a few days ago. He hasn't come to any doctors appts with me and hasn't been the least bit interested in the pregnancy so far. He says that he wants to be apart of our son's life but he doesn't wana be with me...I moved back in with my parents and he is three hours away...I cry every night because I miss him soo much and I need him to be with me and get me through this...and i have support from other people but I just need him and he doesn't understand that. I would be horrified to see him with someone else and have someone want to raise our child...I can't even imagine what it is going to be like to have to let go and let him have long periods of time with the baby. I feel like I don't have control of anything anymore and am just completely lost.