18 Single Lonely Hurt And Depressed
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A few months ago I found out I was pregnant. It totally was unexpected and I was depressed over it for awhile. I was with the baby's dad for almost four years and he said he would stay with me through thick and thin. I was kicked out of my house because I wouldn't have an abortion. So my boyfriend and I got a place and everything was going well. Then issues starting rising because he wanted to go out more, party more, drink more, the usual for an average 20 year old. On the other hand, I am not comfortable going out being six months pregnant. I didn't mind him having people over and what not but one night it got totally out of hand. I went to bed and him and his friends were up till three in the morning, drunk, loud and my boyfriend was throwing up all over the kitchen sink. Furious because I can't sleep well anyway, I went downstairs and got in his faced and told him his friends needed to leave and he needed to go to bed. I was very mad a threw a glass down and it shattered. He claims to this day that I threw it in his face! After that, I went to bed and locked the door, so he could sleep on the couch. But it just got worse. He almost broke down the door, was getting a little pushy and wanted me to move out at 3 in the morning! He was calling me names, like fat and saying mean things about my parents because they don't get along. He even said he didn't want anything to do with me OR the baby. Finally, he passed out and I was up till the next morning when he finally woke. I told him I am not moving out because if I go to my parents they will NEVER let me talk to you. So he said I can live there, we just wouldn't be together! He would do what he pleased whenever and whatever. I don't have a car or a job. But i decided to leave and move back home. I am very lucky my parents have taken me back but I wanted to do this on my own. I love him so much and he just dumps me while I am pregnant. We still talk but he says I am to immature and I need to grow up before we ever think about getting back together. He wants to be there for the baby, which is a change. He still comes to birthing classes with me which is so hard because I just want to be with him so badly. I can't stop thinking about him, I cry all the time. This is suppose to be the happiest time of my life but I am so depressed. He promised me forever and that we would always be a family. I have been counseling but nothing helps. I don't know how to move on or become happy again. All I think about is him being with other girls and living the single life. While I am at home, crying every night, pregnant and unhappy. Please someone help and give me some support..........
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linny first of all, you dont need him. i know you want people to come on this forum and tell u that he will com back and make it work , blah, blah, blah... but truth is, he will still be the same. you need to set your standards higher for yourself, and now ecspecially for the baby. sorry , but i dont think he will change. and even if you did get back together, will you forget that night and the many nights he had? stay with your parents hon, and work things out just as friends. you dont want your baby to be around that. remember it is better to give your baby a happy home without it's daddy, then to give him a home where the mom and dad fight constantly and the baby will not feel " secure" . good luck
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my ex is the same way we were dating for a year before i got pregnant..it was our first time having s_x. i told him to stop during the s_x becuz something just didnt feel rite..we only had s_x for five mintues. i suspected i was pregnant so i took a test and it came back postive. i was so scared and upset that five mintues caused me my life and freedom. well mu best friend called and told him beacuz she knew i wouldnt tell him and what does he do? break up with me saying we shouldnt be together i an to moody and self centered and i need to get an abortion im not going to lie i considered getting an abortion went down to the clinic to get it done everything but guess what? couldnt go through with the procedure i wanted to keep my baby. i dont live at home anymore i live with my best friend my parents live in another state and im 17 so i only got my friend's family help..i also have tons of adults and friends that are going to help me through it. ive had a rough life..having to grow up so fast because my parents are drunks..so i see being a single parent as another obstacle i have to overcome....with a little one by my side. im due dec 24 and i cant wait...now that im not depressed anymore. good luck to all you single moms or soon to be single moms you can do it.
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my dear!! i feel the same way for you. MEN SUCK lol..My ex left me too. But I was two months when he did that. I cry ALL the time over him. Sorry I cannot be much support - but I thought I would let you know that there are other girls in your situation, and cry the same tears. Lets try to stay strong together.
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Im in a similar situation, only i was married to the guy, Im always thinking about him and crying over him, Im srtong though, and you sound so strong. It took me a long time to realize I can do this on my own, I have no job either at home with parents, if you want to talk more my e-mail is baboshie@hotmail.com or we can msn, Im 21......the one lucky thing is hes going to be there for the baby, I left mine 2 months ago and he hasnt even called or tried to get in touch.....You should try and focus on the baby, thats helped me alot,,,
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I am a man going thru the exact situation but with my pregnant fiance or girl friend i'm not sure anymore , we had a few problems but nothing like this , she moved back home and now she says she still loves me but dont know if i can be involved with the baby and that upsets me , everything was great between us but since she got pregnant she is pushing me away everyone keeps saying dont pay any attention to what she's saying cause it the hormones but it hurts. NOT ALL MEN SUCK just most of them
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