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I can see how your mom raised your niece and nephew, but how did you raise them? I a__sume it is your mom who is working, paying all the bills, going to parent/teacher conferences etc. You can not even compare living with your niece and nephew who are both very close in age wtih you to raising your own child starting from infancy. Unless you live on your own and are completely financially independent and have enough savings to allow you to stay home the first 6 months or so, my advice would be to....WAIT. It would not be fair to have your mom raise another grandchild.

You are 19 with your entire life ahead of you. When you have a chld, it will be your responsibilty to raise that child. You are at a time in your life where you should be focusing on getting your education an dhvaing a career. You are way too young to be thinking about having a baby. Take your time. It is not anything to jump into. You have plenty of time.

Robynn I think that in your heart you know what you want! some woman dont want babies until much later in life- some younger. Maybe now is the right time for you. Sit down & REALLY think about it & At the end of the day if your heart is truely in it i say go for it! the heart wants what the heart wants

well, considering having a baby right now isn't really an option anyway since you dont' have an option.... babysit, I guess? Thatsa good way to experience caring for a child without the commitment!

I suggest you wait until you are married, or are in an extremely commited relationship when you are a little older. Do you really want to have a child without the anchor of marriage and financial stability? I know how you feel though. When I was your age, I went through a period where I wanted a baby badly. I think every girl goes through it. It is smarter to wait until you can give your child everything he/she needs. Why put yourself through the stress of trying to make ends meet...or worrying if your boyfriend is going to leave you? Focus on school, getting your life situated. Then have a baby. It will be so much more relaxing and rewarding! Take care

If you're ready,go for it, just make sure you're able to afford it :)

i think if you have a job and a way to take care of the baby.. diaper, clothe, feed... then go for it! but remember the concequences... no time to date, permenant marks on your body that most girls do not have, no time for school or anything else! babies are a full time commitment, financially and physically. if you are okay with all of that, then why not? :)

I understand. I've wanted a baby since 15. Now I'm 28 and I'm glad I waited. If I were you, I would go to college or a technical school first to find out who you are and what you really want out of life. Starting a family too early will be miserable for you. You'll have no money because you won't be able to find a good job without a college or techincal education. The baby's father probably won't be much of a help either. Just take birth control, if you find love and take things over with your mate the right answer will come to you.

Robynn, while I completely understand your feelings, my opinion is you are too young. Do more research into single parenthood by choice. It is an option, however, most clinics won't see you for artificial insemination, if you are single, until you are at least 30. Mind you, I don't know if artificial insemination was your plan. I would suggest, take the next 10 years and enjoy! Find what makes you happy, establish a career, etc. etc. Then, if you still want a child and are still single at 30, you still have LOTS of time to get pregnant. Hope this helps! Smiles, T

I know how you feel, wanting to be pregnant but it's the wrong time. I am there myself, but I am married and 21. I got married when I was 19. All of my friends are having babies right now and it's hard to watch and not be able to have my own because our finances can't handle it. The most valuable thing my friends have told me is how hard it is on their relationships to have babies. When you have a newborn, they consume your time and energy. Men sometimes can't deal with that very well, especially a boyfriend who has made no formal commitment to you. My advice would definitely be to babysit more to fill the baby urges, and try to wait.