20 Years Old Strict Parents Pregnant Scared
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Hi I'm 20 years old and I'm 7 weeks pregnant today. My parents are very strict and I need to tell them and the rest of my family that I'm pregnant. I'm so scared. My boyfriend is there for me and is being very supportive. He's frustrated because I haven't told my family yet. But when I was 17 I got pregnant and was almost 6 weeks when I had a miscarriage. :( but I had already told my parents. They made me feel like the worst person in the world. So that experience has made me not want to tell them anything especially this news AGAIN. It does help that I'm older now. But I still am not ready to raise a child. So basically what I'm asking is for some advice on how and when I should tell my parents, siblings and extended family. They are all very traditional. So I'm scared they won't love me the same anymore. Someone please help me?! :/
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Hi. If it was me, I would take someone with me when I tell them. Someone I trust and someone who I know they respect. If you can not think of such person, maby a priest if you go to church. That would keep your parents from overreacting right there. Sit them down and be prepared. It would help if you had a plan allready about what and how you see this baby being born and rased. Are you thinking of keeping the baby, have you thought about adoption plan? If you throw that out there, it may shift your parents attention from you. Good luck and congratulations.
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It's not clear if you are planning to go through with this. When you have made up your mind, take them one at a time, starting with the most sympathetic. That will give you practice and courage. When you get to your mom, Ry should be with you. It won't be so hard. GL!
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Thank you both for your advice. I didn't realize till now that I really wasn't clear on if I am planning on keeping my baby or not and the answer to that is YES. I am planning on going through with this and keeping and raising my baby. I'm just scared and unsure on what the best way to tell my parents. I do agree with having someone else there with me that my family knows and trusts. I'm getting more nervous too cause I had to make my doctors appt for 2 weeks from now and so they will see it on the insurance. And I want to get to them before that does. So now that I have a deadline it adds more stress. :/
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Anyone? I still need help?
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Text your mom "I'm pregnant again and too scared to tell you". Find a funny but appropriate Hallmark card and let it come in the mail. Buy some flowers and put them on the table. She will ask "What's the occasion?" You'll figure it out.
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how did it go Emmz? Are they over it now? How are you doing? Hope everything worked out fine for you. Let me know at peterjanap at gmail dot com.
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