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I am 21 weeks pregnant and I am alone. My boyfriend is 400 miles away because he states he's working; but I have yet to see a penny of that money. I come from a really wealthy family and I told my mother that I was pregnant. She was really disappointed and me and cut me off financially. I now have no money because he moved his son (from a previous relationship) and himself into my house for a period of time and left me broke. He hasnt given me a dime since we met. I know that I dont want to spend the rest of my life with him. He hasnt been here for me and my child. I've been having a really hard pregnancy and I'm all alone. My family lives 500 miles away. Yet he can go a whole day without calling me to make sure I am ok. Everytime I get the strength to leave him; I back out because I'm terrified of being completely and utterly alone. I hate him so much, but as much as I hate him I love him. I need to know what to do. Please help.
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I know what you are going through... I get to work fulltime at a dead end job since pregnancy got me booted out of my job with a temp agency and now i am down to minimum wage. I am getting huge, he has no job and I have no clothes and barely enough money to support myself and feed his bottomless pit of a belly..... Plus fork out cash just to get a home and pay once again solely on my own with him living with me I love him, i hate him but Hes there for me too and I need to be there for my child when the time comes and I know i will chose my child over him any day and I came from a wealthy family which my dad gambled everything away and now I am solely alone I dont know what else will come but i do know I just think of my baby and i get scared but you'll know when it happens anything may happen and when it comes down to focusing on anything it will be the newborn and that man will no longer be empowering to you it will be your baby.
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Honey, it's time to stand on your own two feet. You're about to be a Mom... no more excuses, no more leaning on Mom and Dad or anyone else. It's time to realize YOU are all you and your baby have... and guess what - thousands of women do it every day, love life, and get by just beautifully. And more importantly - you can do it too. First comes the self confidence. Look in the mirror and say YES I CAN. Not just for you, but for the life growing inside of you. Leave the useless drain of energy you've been generous enough to call a man. He doesn't deserve you! Get that job, find that home, and get on with life. Decorate your baby's nursery, then go get that kick-b___t lawyer who will take Mr. Useless for all he can... get you the child support your baby deserves! Best of luck to you... remember - you're NOT alone. You can do it!
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Rose, I know just how scarey it can be to think that of being on your own. With my first child I left her "donor" when I was about 5-6 months along. It is hard, don't let anyone tell you otherwise! First of all there are many programs out there to help you, go to your nearest Dept. of Social Services and often they can help you get $$ for food, rent, heat, ect. they also have help for the doctor bills. Then go to the County nurse and get on WIC, it will get you some healthy foods like milk, juice, eggs, and cereal. Lastly I recommend that you don't ask your family for money but instead for love and mental support.. this will mean admitting that you messed up. Maybe if you seem to be trying they would be willing to help you at least move closer to them. Babies are not ment to be raised alone and even if it means having your parents help it would be better than doing it alone. Lastly, stop supporting the baby's dad and his other kid. The guy, even though I know you still love him, is not going to stick around just because you have his baby ( look at the fact that he also has the other boy)
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Rose- You have the cla__sic "But I love him" syndrome. The situation you are in is not healthy and you need to get out on your own. It will be difficult, but you will be able to provide your child with a better life in the end. You're stronger than you give yourself credit for. Best wishes!
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First things first - do you have a job? Secondly, love is never a reason to stay with a man. Lastly, it is tiem to grow up and realize you made a decesion to have this child and you areresponsible for his/her life. Take charge and get out there and do what it takes. And remember one thing - you are never alone.
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Rose I agree with everyone else.... You have to worry about yourself and this baby right now not him! I am 21 yrs old and a waitress. I am 23 wks along and think I am doing pretty well, I am having a little girl and everything I do is for her. I am going back to school in the fall taking online cla__ses and open labs since I will be having her in the middle of the semester. It feels degrading to ask for help from the government but its there and if you are trying and you work as hard as you can then its not abusing the system. Its very hard for me to do this when I know her father has money he just bought a brand new car and here I am struggling to buy shampoo. The harder I struggle the more I love my daughter and know that she will love me! Just start doing what you need to do now!
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