25 Weeks Pregnant And Baby S Dad Is Abusive-pg113331413618
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I left my baby's father when I was 3 months pregnant. He started to become very controling and yelled at me all the time. Ladies as you know the first 3 months are the hardest and I was sick and I couldnt take it so I left. I did alittle research on my own and found out he has been arrested 4 times in the past for assault and battery on 4 different women(i guess i got out in time) he has had 2 restraining orders against him one pending now.He wanted to go to the doc. appointment with me but I told him he makes me very uncomfortable so now he hasnt called me in almost 3 months. should I have him invovled in the birth or not? I dont want him near me or the baby but I know he must have some rights I just dont know what they will be. I wish he would just sign off all rights but I doubt that will happen. Anyone else had experience with this?
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I am in the same boat, I didn't want to post it on this forum but I need help with this too. First of all good for you for leaving him in the first place, most women don't do it b/c they love him, or their scared. I am still w/ him, he hasn't hit me since i've been pregnant. My bf has never been arrested for it. But obviously he has issues if he's done this to 4 different women and atleast 2 of them were so scared by him that they went through the trouble of getting restraining orders on him. That is really serious. If you feel that it would give you unneeded stress by him being there while the baby if being delivered then by all means don't let him be involved. After the baby is born and you feel comfortable, I think you should let him see the baby, after all it's his baby too. But obviously not alone and not supervised. If you are going to meet up w/ him make sure a close friend or relative is aware in case anything happens, that's what I used to do. Just be careful. E-mail me if you want to talk more; hotchic36ds@yahoo.com
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Are you serious? After all that evidence you presented, I can't believe your question was "should I have him involved or not?" He hasn't even called you in 3 months. No court would blame you for keeping your child from him, given his record. And that is if this guy even bothers to come around.
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 | jg - February 23 |
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He may at some stage have some rights, like supervised visits with your child. The thing is that your baby may still love its father despite his unsavoury past, but you REALLY need to stay away from him for your and your childs' safety!!! Do not let him harm you or your baby - that is one right that he does NOT have. Stay safe honey.
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want ever you do just submit the papers first.. (custody i mean) ask a preg counsler in your area to help you get the papers so that you can file as soon as you give birth..... and you shoud be fine... and I would say the farther you stay away the better.... but hey honey keep your head up!!!!!
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Since he has a past history of a__saulting women I would say no. Being pregnant and alone can be stressful but being in an abusive relationship can be deadly. The number one death of pregnant women is murder. My advice to you is to stay away from him. I would also not put his name on the baby's birth C. I hope all works out well for you and your pregnancy. Congrats and Good Luck
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