8 Years Down The Tube

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kamikazee12003 - May 6

Hi everyone- I was pregnant back in November and had a miscarriage. Boyfriend of 8 years+ was glad it happened. I was on birth control the second time as well which is current. I will be 13 weeks Thursday. I am excited (well all the fun and excitement is gone now) but he wants me to get an abortion. Of course I have said no which leaves me where I am now. I had to move out last night and go back to my mothers home. I leave behind two wonderful pups that is so hard to get over them not being by my side all the time and comforting me when I need it the most. He told me to have the abortion or he will make my life h__l and never speak a breath to me or our child. I know he is scared and so am I. Why did he have to kick me out? 8 years is a darn long time and I do not need the stress. I feel like being done with it all. I don't know if I can raise this child or not on my own- I can give it my best- but what if? Me and him both agreed that we did not want children during our relationship- (I was not supposed to have kids so easy decision for me) Well it finally happened. The first one didn't survive so I fiigured I could but not carry it. I got prego the first time cause of antibiotics when I had my tooth pulled. The second time- who knows. I can't quit crying and I am distraught. I feel like I have mad a HUGE mistake even though god gave me this for a reason. But why this time and by this guy? How can I get over him?

 

lunamoo - May 7

Please do not take this the wrong way. There are always 2 (or more) sides to every story. We all create our own versions to make us right, this is natural. I find it hard that you are suprised that after 8 years (which is longer than most marriages) he acts like this. Did you not see any signs that he is a total Axxhole...? If you bc fails twice in such a short amount of time, maybe he is wary of this... I am sure he was not "glad" you had a mc. The thought of becoming a parent is so frightening and overwhelming to some people react in not so nice ways especially when they never wanted to become parents. Maybe he has deep issues with his own parents and childhood....Live, people...oh it is all complicated. Good luck!

 

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