Boyfriend Leaves Me With 2nd Child

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foofoo86 - July 3

My boyfriend and I have been togther for about 3 1/2 years. We have a daughter together that is almost a year old. Last recently found out that I am 3 months pregnant. Things have been very unstable and unhappy between us. It all started in January when I bought a car. We were planning to build a house together and put our money together to do it. I've been needing and wanting a car for a while because something was always wrong with my car and repairing it was getting ridiculous. The money I had left, I used to purchase a car. I didn't consult my boyfriend or even tell him or my dad because they keep telling me to wait until I finish school. My brakes kept going out on my old car. The value of the car is less than 1k because it has a salvage t_tle and I've put cloase to 5500k into the car even when it's worth less than 1k and the problems continue. My daughter was riding in the car with me and sometimes by breaks would stop working so that's why I bought another one. MInd you, my boyfriend does not give me money, take care of me, or ever payed for any of the repairs on my old car. My boyfriend got mad when I bought it and said we can't build the house because of it. I told him i'd sell the car and put the rest of the money towards the house. He said no its too late for that now. So now we're not building the house. I didn't tell my boyfriend I had other money and when he found out he said he wasn't going to ask me to put more into the house. He was angry because i didn't tell him, and I didn't tell him because he said even if we were married he'sd still have his own money and I didn't feel the need to disclose how much I had left if he still wanted his own money.

 

foofoo86 - July 3

this story is very long. I couldn't post it all. If anyone cares for me to email it to them let me know

 

Krissy25 - July 5

Well i would say that all of this has very little to do with the car. I mean if you guys were keeping your finances seperate and you had already put towards the house, there is no reason you need permission to buy a car. Yes it is a big purchase and maybe you should have said you were going to go ahead and purchase one, but my guess is you knew how he was going to react and that is why you didn't say anything, plus you aren't married. Your child's safety comes first, you did the right thing, and your bf should have made getting a safer car a priority for you sooner. The fact that he's telling you that you guys can't build the house (even if you sell the car) says something. He is not ready to commit and he is using this as an excuse. But i think you may not be ready to commit either. I think you need to step back and figure out what you need for youself and your children. Good luck.

 

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