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I keep going through break up after break up with the father of my baby boy. He has caused me to have serious depression issues during this pregnancy, and I haven't taken care of them.... I'm too embarrassed to mention it to my doctor. I desperately want to say something to my doctor, I know she can help me. Well I decided to give him another chance, big mistake is probably what you are all thinking. He has decided to join the Army National Guard, and said he wanted to take care of me. I was so happy to hear those words, you have no idea.... I mean I didn't know what to say. I believed every word. Anyway, I still need a crib.... I showed him pictures of the crib I wanted which is at Babies R Us and is only $170. Today he got paid and I asked him what he was going to do.... I expected to hear well when do you want to go get that crib you've been talking about? But no. He said.... I don't know what to do with all my money. I just told him I had to go and I would call him back later. Seconds later, once again.... I was in tears. He hasn't given me any money for the baby and I am due in 1 month and 13 days, he hasn't done shit for me. I am so depressed about this.... I cant stop crying. I know that if this would have happend with any of my other boyfriends this definately would not be happening. I would be set and have everything I needed. He keeps all the baby stuff at his house.... and tells me that I cant use any of it. He told me this the other day. I told him I was upset with him and I didn't want to speak to him. I don't know what to do anymore.... I just wanted him to be there for his son and for me. He made me believe he was going to take care of me and this baby. He fooled me again. I'm sorry I really needed to vent.
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hun im in the same situation. email me at ashleygrl05@hotmail.co or myspace.com/pinkbo0tlace
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Hia, im in the same situation too, ive lost count the amount of times my ex has made me cry and ive vented on here about him more times then i can remember. My ex was like yours, he would get my hopes up and act like everything was fine then just let me down when he couldnt be bothered or wasnt interested and after a while i stopped believeing him and things got alot better. I started to feel happy about myself and my pregnancy and he realised that he couldnt walk all over me because i was sticking up for myself when he threw sarcastic and hurtful comments at me. As for financial support ive been lucky there with my ex because he has actually has given me money for things i need and bought me stuff, not too sure if he wanted to but this baby isnt just my responsability its his to so he had to realise this. U can email me if ya want jelly_tot_gal@hotmail.com. GdLuck
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mines the same way...and im due dec 24....my aim is xoxo2legitxoxo...my myspace is myspace.com/ladymel07...hit me up sometimes we can help each other cope!!
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WOW... Are all of our children's dad's related? lol... I've gone through the same thing... Before I got pregnant, he was begging me to have his baby, we were engaged etc... Well He got his wish, I found out I was pregnant and it was over and him begging me to have an abortion for 2 weeks. Then about a month later he was calling saying he was sooo sorry he was just scared, he wants to be with me and our son. He wanted to live together- so I took a 12,000 loan out for a trailer and bought a nice one, spent all the money making it nice... He leaves me halfway through the process... Then about 2 months later (after I began talking to other ppl) he decided he wanted to be together again... Got me an even nicer engagement ring than before wanted to still live together, installed carpet in "our" trailer, painted "our' room etc. Then leaves again, and starts dating another girl... then calls and tells me he is sorry... I give him another chance (because I'm an idiot) and that lasts 2 weeks, I find out he is still seeing this other girl, and he breaks up with me again. I was in the hospital this past Thursday and he was nowhere to be found... I told him everything that happened- and he replied that he didnt care if I died in the hospital, he doesnt care about me or if I'm sick etc. and I'm doing all this to myself. He told me not to call him again unless it was to tell him his son was born... I most definately know how you feel, and what your going through... If you wanna talk or ne thing I do have myspace- www.myspace.com/kristap2006 or I have aim and msn messenger.. My email is nirvana_chick17@hotmail.com
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He just showed up at my house yesterday, didn't ask or tell me.... nothing. He throws money in my face and calls me a f*cking b*tch. Then he proceeds to tell me how he didn't know I was a "materialisitc girl" and that I was shallow. I just wanted to scream in his face and hurt him like he's hurt me. It had nothing to do with the money, material things, and I am definately NOT shallow. I'm just so sick and tired of doing this alone, I cant even go out and get anymore maternity clothes.... so I have to wear pajama pants 90% of the time. I have one pair of pants that fit me, and I still have no fall/winter coat so I have to freeze my a__s off everytime I take a step outside. I spend the money that I get on the baby, ALL OF IT.... I never stop and think about myself. My parents have been helping me out a great deal through this.... not him not even once. Today he says, ok let's go get the crib and a snowsuit for the baby. We walk to the Max (train) and he stops and says.... "well, why don't I call my mom so she can take us". I hate his mother....and for good reasons. I thought it was just going to be us. So I decide to swallow my pride and just go with it.... so we walk back to my house and he calls his mommy to pick us up. They come about 15 minutes later and he looks at me says, "Ok, I gotta go now I will call you later". I want to f*cking kill him!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I swear if I see him again I am seriously going to do something horrible to him.... I just know it. I told him he needs to keep as far away from me as possible. He left and once again I ended up crying myself to sleep. I just want my son to have the things he needs.... I want to be able to sit there broke and know he has everything he needs. Instead of sitting there broke knowing that my parents bought everything. I hate this and I hate him so much. Thanks so much ladies for replying and the support. I will definately be talking to many of you soon. :)
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Aww hun! I'm sorry... My ex was online and I asked him if he could drop my 4D ultrasound video and disk(that I paid for alone) off at my workplace ( I'm not allowed to work, so he wouldnt even see me) and all I got was "sure, but I thought I told you not to talk to me until the baby was born" a__ses... Hun, I'd stay as far away from him as you could! Did you atleast keep the money to get your son the things he needs?
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The money he threw in my face? no.... it made me feel like a prost_tute or something. I threw it over my balcony and he went running for it.
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i do agree with him being an a**, however, honey, if you are hurting that bad for clothes that you are freezing just for a jacket, then 170.00 is a little too much on a crib when you are already broke. i would definanlty look in the newspaper for something cheaper, then maybe a nice pair of maternity jeans for you :)... use him hon....sounds like you deserve better than him anyway. your baby needs a better father, and you can find him one ! there are better men out there.
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To my surprise he showed up with a bouncer thing for the baby and a baby snowsuit.... still no crib! And actually Ash, $170 is pretty d__n good for a nice and decent crib. Regardless, I am still getting the crib. I also got a new jacket.... ugh.... I look like a big barn =\ I still don't know what to do about him though.... I appreciate him finally doing something.... but I feel it only happens when he knows I am very p__sed off and upset with him. That's not the way it should work. I shouldn't have to tell him or ask him to do things for the baby. Ugh, I want to keep myself away from him.... but he just wont go away.
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Lauren, ignore ash2, she is a judgemental b___h who obviously has no clue as to what you are going through. I agree, 170 is NOT too expensive a crib for your baby. As for your bf, not sure what to tell you sweetie. Do what you feel is right. GL
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leave him alone i know its better said then done but you need to be emotionaly right for this baby and u need not be under any stress and if he does'nt know what he has thenhey you cant waite for him to grow up another kid needs u more
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Ok..I am at the beginning of my pregnancy only 9 weeks...and my boyfriend...or ex I don't know is playing these same games...I want to run now so that I don't have 9 months of misery...but then I don't because I love him with all my heart...though he says he never loved me...he just cares about me deeply but it isn't love and therefore we can't be together forever. He doesn't have a job and has been in jr college for 8 years!!!!!! I have this great job and I already have my degree. I am just going as crazy as you guys seem to be. Should I cut him out of the picture now and save my heart??? what do you think...leave me a comment here or on myspace at http://www.myspace.com/gerrystallgirl
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