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I'm eighteen my ex boyfriend is twenty-two. We were together for almost a year and from the day we started dating we had some trials. Before me he was dating this girl (lets call her sarah) that had some serious issues. She was insane when she found out that we were together and he moved on with someone else she had a major problem with it. She would harass him at his job was told that he might loose his job if she countinued to call the workplace. He had to change his cell phone number several times. "Somehow" she got ahold of my cell phone number and would call me all the time late at night druck saying she was going to kill me- simply for the fact that he was with someone else and she was jealous. She would call me all throughout the night leave me voicemails. But in the back of my mind i always wondered how she could have gotten my number if it wasnt by him?? So he must have been seeing her. right?? yeah. He claimed to be really good friends with sarahs sister and her husband. So when they would hang out/ I know she would make herself available to be there just to see him. Although he told me he hated her for all the h__l that she put him through. She tried breaking us up by sending me pictures of him sleeping saying he was cheating on me... which he probably was but i still stayed with him.. why god knows why. Later on down the road i find out im pregnant. We decided to have the child. She finds out send me text mess. calls me saying that shes going to wait to the baby is born to kill me and my son. All kinds of threats. I ended up having to get a new phone so i couldnt save anything she said. I always asked him to get some kind of restrainig order on her if not for me and his unborn child then at least for himself and the h__l that she put him through. But he never did he always told me too. Mind you i know nothing about this girl except for the fact that shes nuts and never even met her. So a few months later we faught about something that wasnt even worth fighting over but i caught him lying to me about little things and he was soo fustrated that he was bascially caught out. He didnt talk to me for two weeks didnt answer my phone calls or return the call. Until one day he breaks up with me in a text mess. It was fine i knew he wasnt mature enough and he still had alot of growing and changing to do before he became anytype of father. Hes still young and likes going out on the weekends drinking. Smokes ocassionally and I WILL NOT TOLORATE THAT WITH MY SON! i was happy that we werent together because for while we got along better than we did together. I recently come to find out that him and sarah. After she has threatened to kill me and my son. He claims that they arent together but i know that they are. She sent me a letter saying how sorry she was for everything she had done in the past. I wouldnt take it. The letter didnt bother me what go tme was if they werent together or even talking there would be no reason for her to send me that. What i strongly believe it is, is that he didnt want the baby mamma drama and his girlfriend. So he probably had her write that to save him the h__l. So we could be okay and i would be forgiving towards her then later he would tell me that theyre together. So I decided that I dont want him anywhere near my son when hes born. I dont want him at the hospital when im in labor and for now i sure dont want him at any of the doctor appt. even though he has come to all of them but one. I even have gone so far as to resheduling all the ones that the knew about. Any advice...? Is it wrong for me to totally take him out because of the simple decisions and choices that hes making. I remember he said when i confronted him on the issue is that " Do you honeslty think i would put my own son in an unsafe position or place?" but how am i supposed to know that if he never did anything in the past when she threatened to kill me and his kid? dosent add up.. I dont trust him at all...