He Left Me At 38 Weeks Pregnant
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George and I got pregnant unexpectedly but all seemed it would work out.. George got a house (I paid more than my share of bills but the house wasn't in my name cause my divoroce was dragging on) and we were planning our family. He was wonderful and we were happy. The problem was he was in Pittsburgh and I was 300 miles away in Scranton. We decided I would move back at the end of my job's contract year (first week of June). I drove in every weekend until I was 9 months pregnant to see him and work on our house. (He came to visit me only 2 times)
In April George was out of work for 5 weeks so I did all I could to pay the bills and keep everything afloat. Life wasn't easy but I thought of it all as an investment in my future with George and our baby due June 27. The day we waited for had finally come, I moved to Pittsburgh on June 6. Six days later George let me know that there was no future for us and he wasn't in love with me. That was it. I was told to get over it and move on with my life.... At 38 weeks pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So, lets review... I was $4000 invested in his house, resigned from my job, moved 300 miles across the state, 38 weeks pregnant and DUMPED after a 6 day stay!!!
I went to get some of my stuff yesterday and he changed the locks on me. He also deleted all my pregnant belly pictures off the camera (taken monthly to watch me grow). Did I forget to mention he's 'not sure what role he wants to play in the baby's life'? I am so hurt and lost. It is so hard to be excited about the baby with all that is going on. HELP!!
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omg, gleason i am so sorry! as of right now i can say that he is a poor excuse for a man! but, on the hand, this may just be a temporary stage that he is going through. lets hope. under no circ_mstances should you have to be going through this, especially since you are so close to becoming a parent. i know that you are under so much stress right now, and that is soo unfair! i really hope that he feels like a peice of sh*t right now, because that is how is acting! can i ask, how old are you two? does he have anyother children? all i can think is that hopefully he just has cold feet and soon he will wake up and realized what he is doing to you. if he doenst wake up and smell the coffee soon. sometimes after the baby is born and who ever the person is that is acting stupid ( in my case my mother) will realize how precious this child is, and maybe he'll will come to at least respect you for being his childs mother! i really dont have any advice to give, but i want you to know my heart and prayers go out to you! i dont understand what kind of man would allow a very pregnant woman to take care of him in the way that you did, and turn around and leave you high and dry. i wonder if there is a way if things dont work out, that you can at least take him to court ot get reimburst (sp) for what you put into the house and relationship. i would not let him get away woth it. if he doesnt want to be a father toyour baby, dont think that that would be the end of the world. you sound like a very strong woman, and im sure that you will come out of this a smarter, stronger woman, and then in turn finally find the man of your dreams! please keep me posted! ~ jessica
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I agree with billsgirl.. OR, it could be the obvious.. he's been seeing someone else the entire time he's been seeing you, since he was only seeing you on weekends. Sounds like he might have had another life going on 300mi away from you and then when you moved in, he realized it wasn't going to work. Men can be such sc_m!
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I'm so sorry to hear your story, gleason. I am in a similar situation myself - 28 wks preg with twins and I married the love of my life (or so I thought) on May 26. Well he hasn't stayed here the past couple nights, says he wants a divorce, and wants nothing to do with our 2 sons. I am devestated and heartbroken. As billsgirl pointed out, hopefully your boyfriend is going through a temprorary meltdown. I hope so for you and your baby's sake. I can definitely sympathize with your situation, and I hope everything works out for you and your baby. Best of luck to you.
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Gleason, what a story, wow. What was the reason you guys weren't married - was he dragging his heels regarding marriage the whole time? 38 weeks, unbelievable.
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You'll be much better off in the long run. Just take a deep breath. Do you love him? Do you want to be with him? If you do then try to work things out. Listen, don't argue, send him messages and completely disregard your past problems with him. Act like nothing ever happened. When baby comes, just mail him pictures and sweet cards to him. If he doesn't contact you after a month file for child support in court. You have to accept the fact he either loves you or doesn't. I think over time he will come around.
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i can relate to your situation. I was left at 15 weeks pregnant after my boyfriend took my car, money, and phone and left me 600 miles away from EVERYONE i knew. I am back home now, but i know things can be hard. If you are like me, you are probably fighting your own emotions. Some days you may cry and miss him more than anthing, and other days you may have more hate and anger towards him than anything. I try to think about the baby being here, because i know it will keep me busy. If these men do not want a part of the kids lifes after they see them, then they are not real men and our babies are better off. Please keep in touch with me. I will have you in my prayers.
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OMy its twins..wow..i got married may 19th an di would be devastated if my husband said that..i'm sooo sorry...and hunny to gleason..you dont need him..but hopefully its a phase that he just needs to work out..i hope he changes his mind and everything works out.
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I am really sorry and can sympathize because this happened to me when I was 6 months preg. It s a long and dragging process to get through especially when still love your ex partner. It can be quite emotional and distracting even aftr gving birth. The most important thing is that you focus your energy, positive energy on the baby. My ex has only been by twice to see his son since being born 3 months ago and I had to call him on both occa__sions. I havnt heard from him in a month and I am not going to stress myself over trying to get him to be a dad. I am certain thta his new relaitonship is occupying his time. Like I said, take the hurtful emotion and turn it upside down and concentrate on the new baby, who didnt ask to be here, but needs every kind of care from you. And babys can sense frustration so stay positive.
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one more thing, make sure you file for child support. It is not your right, but the childs right to have financial support from both parents, even if he does choose to not be a father.
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