He S Gone Now That I M Pregnant
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I was with a guy for two years, he fathered a daughter of ours that wasn't his for two+ yrs. He was the stay at home dad because I had a job that made more money than he would have. Things were, OK through out the relationship could have been better but he was a pretty good man I guess. Then we moved away and I was pregnant, sicker than a dog and couldn't work. He didn't take the initiative to go out and get a job so we lost our apartment that was in my name and now I'm basically homeless staying with my brother in a two bedroom with my daughter and this one on the way. He doesn't call he doesn't visit, NOTHING! I am sooo depressed after all of this, that I can hardly get out of bed and go each day. Someone please tell me what I can do before I go crazy please. This was my last resort. My mother was murdered when I was younger and I truly don't recall having this hard of a time.
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You are having a tough time, and have my sympathy. It sounds like you were being used for a meal ticket for two years, and nothing else. This must surely serve as a wake-up call to examine what mistakes you are repeating in your choices of mate, and seek corrective action.
I think younger people tolerate risk better because they have not yet experienced the consequences. You have been through enough that you know the problems you are facing. You are technically one of the "homeless, precariously housed" at this stage. Perhaps you really need a short regime of anti-depressants to tide you over. Get yourself signed up at the Health Department and Social Services for all the benefits you can lay your hands on. A few years down the pike you will look back and wonder why you were so concerned. You can handle it! Good luck!
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Yeah its a bit hard to swallow but it seems your right. Now that I have nothing to offer hes out the door. I was wondering about the anti-depressants but wasn't sure if it would effect my pregnancy in any way but I will check into that my next OB appointment. I was also raised with a father that I basically raised so I feel that to me it was no big deal to take care of another man, and I never looked at it as taking care of someone because my father made it look and seem all so normal. I just want to get him out of my picture as much as possible and focus on my future with my children and try to be the happiest woman I can be in my situation right now. I start school in September so that is what is motivating me most. I feel like I will be doing something for me and my children. I greatly appreciate your advice and time, thanks again!
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Hmm! There's a book something like "Adult Children of Alcoholics" that might be worth reading. If you loved a needy adult as a child, you are likely to be later attracted to a needy adult when seeking a lover. I wonder if you are going to school to be a nurse, or in one of the other helping professions. That would compute. You would really benefit from some counseling to resolve these issues. GL!
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If you are single and pregnant, you don't have to be! Check out my profile for Facebook page information on finding a man that will love and adore you during and after your pregnancy, or search 'pregnant and single' in Facebook. I have even established a Yahoo group called 'PREGNANTNSINGLENLA' to put single pregnant women together with men who possess a strong s_xual fetish for pregnant woman. So, if you're still pregnant and single, that is purely your choice as you don't have to be.
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