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Hi I need advice and fast. I am about six weeks pregnant. Morning sickness, pains, tired all the time and the cherry on top he wants abortion. I have a 13 year old I had abortion 7 years ago and think about it a lot. I can't put a child up for adoption my child would be devastated. He told me all my symptoms and I'd be better off without it. He told me you want a new car, job and house you won't be able to get that.. all true. I would be starting over. He has no children and said he has two choices be bad guy and walk away or be good guy give support and we can both move on in life miserable. My question have you gone through this, does verbal attacks stop? According to him I planned this and I am making the wrong decision. It will be hard enough to tell my family I am pregnant unwed and doing this all over again. Please don't explain abortion and adoption I know, I need to hear experiences. He knows, I know and I can't think of an objective person to talk to. Thank you for your time.
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Sorry you find yourself in this dilemma. Are you living together? What a self-centered man! May I recast his position into "Either I make you miserable by walking away, or I make you miserable by staying with you." I think your starting point has to be "If he is going to do his best to make me miserable, I prefer to do it alone. Now what decisions do I have to make?" Should you get some input from your 13 year old - choice of sibling + penury v. only child + comfort? You have not reached a comfort zone with your decision of 7 years ago, so doubling up will only make it worse. Is there a third road - invite him out of your daily life, but let him be father to the child from a distance? HUGS!
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