Hey Everyone Im New To This
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Im twenty years old, single, and 25 weeks pregnant. I just found this forum after spending the last 4 days desperatley searching the iternet for advise...or anything, about my pregnancy. I have just recently found out that my baby boy may have something wrong with him. I am still working on coping with the fact that I am going to be a single mother...I dont know If I can do it if hes special needs. I have so much guilt saying this, because I should love his just as much either way...but I dont know if I can do it alone. Any other single mothers with special needs children?
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PTNP, I'm so sorry to hear that there may be problems. Don't feel guilty, I can imagine the stress of learning this would be alarming. Do you mind me asking, what have they told you might be wrong with the baby? (The reason I ask, many times the prenatal tests can have a high rate of false positives.)
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I dont mind you asking at all, actually Ive been dying to talk to SOMEONE about it. They called and told me they found a calcification on his liver. They referred me to an appointment at the local maternal-fetal health specialists, but since its the only center of its kind, I have another three weeks to wait before I get the "genetic councelling" they call it, and the further tests and ultrasounds, and a possible amnio. I have looked up everything I can on hepatic calcification on the internet, and gotten results varying from infection, to tumors, to it usually going alongside with other severe malformations including trisomy 18, or a few other trisomys. I looked on here and read about a few people who found calcifications on the heart...which apparently can be a__sociated with downs, but nothing about the liver.
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Did the blood test come back abnormal. If it was just the blood test don't worry yet. They are not always right.
Good luck,
Michelle
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Hi, PTNP, i would like to offer you my story. I am not single, but last year when i was pregnant with my son (i was 21) we found out that he might have had downs syndrome (trisomy 21) and i chose to have an amniocentesis done, I had to, as i felt i wasnt mentally strong enough to cope with an ill baby, thankfully everything turned out ok. My point is, it has to be your decision and dont feel guilt or let anyone tell you that what your doing is wrong. I think a quality of life for a baby has to come into it too. It is a hard thing to do, but whatever you decide if there is anything wrong, you are very very brave. good luck
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