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u need to stay head stronge, it going to be hard being a single mother. but u will know its worth it. if he wants u to adort it, then thats when u abort him, its as easy as that, if hes not willing to be there for u and the baby, have him sign his rights away, so if one day u do get married ur husband can adopt the baby. if hes going to treat u like that, just think about how much harder and meaner he will get. ur babys life is in ur hands and dont let him take that away from u good luck and keep us updated

Hi Marie, I don't think you can erase him from your memory. I am sure you have spent plently of great times together etc. I am sort of going throught he same thing with my partner only he does have kids and thats why he doesnt want anymore. Long story but as much as it hurts I still love him. Some people might wonder how or why I don't hate him but its not that easy to turn the switch off. We have been dealing with it a bit lately and he finally understands that he is going to have another child (I will not be terminating). If he chooses to be a part of the baby's life or not is a decision I have left up to him. If he decides he doesn't want to be thats ok because I know I am more than capable of doing it on my own. We still talk every couple of days and I am glad that it is like that. I would miss him more than anything if we decided to be gone from each others life cold turkey! I am not due until march 2006 so we still have time to sort things out. If I was you I wouldn't let him rule your life. There is no reason why you have to move states or even house I think that you have to just start programming your mind a different way, to know thats its going to be you and the baby now not you and him. When is your baby due I would love to keep talking to you and see how things are going! Good luck and keep me updated!

You guys are so sweet. Thank you so much for your support. I want to keep this baby. He emailed me today and he said "Hanging up on me accomplishes zero" and I replied "leave me alone" and he responded back "Perfect. When you come to your senses I am here for you" But I did not write back. Yeah he will be there for me - to hold my hand at the abortion clinic! I am more hurt about the way he reacted - I knew it would be like this but I never expected him to be so cruel. Te only way he could fix it now would be to show up on his knee crying and begging my forgiveness. 4 years and we had a really good relationship. I am just still in shock.

I am due the first of May

My advice. Do exactly what your doing. Trust me he will be the one coming to you. TRUST ME on that on. Just get on with enjoying the pregnancy

Just thought I would post an update. But first, I want to personally thank Aisha for all her support on numerous posts. Girl, you are the best, and thank you. Well, my boyfriend emailed me and said he still wanted me to go to a football game that we had previous plans to go to. I went and he was so nice to me it was weird. We didnt talk about the pregnancy until the morning and he said, "What are we going to do?" I told him I didnt know and then he asked me how far along I was becuase it made a difference on how fast we needed to move on this. I think he is trying to be super nice so I will go have an abortion. Before I left he asked if he could take me out to lunch on Tuesday so we could discuss this. I emailed him today and told him it was wrong to have an abortion and I didnt think I could live with myself if I did it. I told him the only way I could do it was if there was something wrong with the baby. I know he does not want this baby, period and he is going to freak out when I dont have an abortion. I told him 2 years ago if he never wanted kids to have a vasectomy. He told me he has been involved in 6, yes 6, previous abortions.

I'm with the moving out of the state and starting a new life idea. No let me quit! He obviously doesn't want the baby and you seem like a strong woman, so I'm sure you'll be strong enough to raise the baby w/o him. I would answer his calls though and maybe see if there is still any hope, you know. I know, I know about your heart being broken. I'm sorry.

First of all Marie ((((Big Hugz))). Girl Im just keeping it real and trying to help those women that do not have a friends ear, We are around the same age and I know what your going through, I know how your feeling, I know how you feel when he says what he says..I just feel it and thats why Im like let him do what hes doing. im serious. When I found out I was pregnant my babys daddy asked me the same thing..what are you going to do and i told him the same as you did....that abortion was not for me and he didnt say much but i know he wasnt pleased. Girl he told me he had some acceident where he couldnt have kids, he said we werent going to be together and just put me through the whole jekyl and hyde thing, Through it all i told myself....its all about the baby ..all about the baby.that was my background noise through out. When he dissed me...i said its about the baby...and when he was nice ..i said its all about the baby. Mama Im telling you that it IS all about the baby and you are doing the right thing. But let me tell you this...be prepared to step back and let him act the fool because he is going to act the fool. Dont take it personally..he said he never wanted kids...well i guess God had another plan for him...right? My baby daddy said the same thing thathe was NEVER having kids then he told me if its his baby then hes gonna be there in a way i cant even imagine.(Like I said jekyll and hyde) Its going to be hard..dont feel bad for wanting to believe him..and dont feel bad for feeling hurt..but its only 9 months. And it gets more confusing once the baby is born so may as well enjoy this time in your life because trust me when your as big as me at 38 weeks...you are going to be begging for it to be over. Enjoy the change in your body and dont let him take that away from you. Youll never get it back and with that being said let me stop writing this novella.(hehe) Peace!

Y'all are not going to believe this but I swear to god it is the truth. My boyfriend picked me up for lunch at my office and after I get in the car he tells me he made an appointment to see a relationship counselor. So we go there and this guy totally tells me I should have an abortion. My boyfriend tells him how he does not want to get married or have kids, even though he loves me. The counselor tells me that it is not fair to the child to do it on my own, that I need to be able to devote time to it which I don't have because of my career, that my life would be so hard if I had it. It was crazy you guys, and I was PISSED. I know he had talked to this counselor before we got there because the counselor knew things he couldn't have. And I am almost positive he asked the counselor to persude me to have an abortion. I didn't talk to him the whole way back to my office and he knew I was livid. He asked me if he could call me tonight and I said, "No, I will call you." Screw that. I am so p__sed off. Moving out of state is looking better and better. Oh yeah, in the counselor he said if I have a kid there would be court battles and it would be a mess, bla bla bla - it was just awful! God, now what do I do?

Three words. Cut Him Off!

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