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Well he sounds like all of the other losers all of the women on this board talk about! Leave his a__s..go on with your life and cut off all contact with him until your baby is born. Afterwards, contact the attorney general in your state and pursue child support. You cant force any man to want to be with you or your child but he is legally obligated to compensate you.

I forgot to mention that I am 24, he is 23 and I am finding out sometime this week how far along I am. I really want the comfort of a male to help me through this, but I would not be comfortable dealing with a man other than the father. My father was not in my life and he did not pay child support. I do not want my child to go through the same thing.

dont be another abortion notch in his belt. Maybe he should get a vasectomy !

FOUR ABORTIONS?!?! WOOOOW... and I thought MY ex was bad! Anyway, you say that you don't want your child to grow up without a father like you did, I know that must've been painful for you, but it sounds to me like you turned out pretty great. You seem mature in that you didn't want to have an abortion because of your morals, and also that you wouldn't have kept seeing him if you knew he was seeing someone else. The "support" of a man is a nice idea, but I'm beginning to think that men are more of a pain in the b___t than anything... haha. I'm 23, and I went through my whole pregnancy without my dillhole of an ex. He even got ENGAGED to a girl he'd only known for 4 months when I was 7 MONTHS PREGNANT. How's that for respect? hahahaha... anyway, should you choose to keep the baby (which I think you should, and I think you'll be glad you did.. I know I am!) don't even bother letting him know how you or your baby are doing. If he wants to know, he'll ask. There's no sense in even thinking about him, it'll just stress you out (I know it's hard). Also... about you being cheated out of finding your true love... a child won't stop that. Frankly I think children are awesome for weeding out the immature little boys that you wouldn't want to be with anyway. Some day you are going to find someone who will truly love you and love your child as if it were his own... you can count on that. and trust me... I'm not getting any less offers for dates now than I did before I had my daughter... if anything I'm getting more because the guys see me as being mature and responsible.

I didn't mean that the child would cheat me, I meant that if I decided to take him back at any point in the future after he has supposedly proven himself to be more than a walking sperm donor with no conscious. But I am actually over that idea. I realize that with him, his lifestyle comes first and there is no other woman that is going to change that, you see, he would still be hating if he was single. He's just not for me.

What is WRONG with you? How is keeping your child going to hinder you from finding someone that really loves you? Do you realize how ridiculous that sounds??? If someone REALLLY LOVED you they would love EVERYTHING about you, with or without a baby! And finally.... You shouldn't have slept with him in the first place! He SAID he loved you to get you into the sack! Duh! Make a man WAIT that will be a big test of how he loves you. And no matter what the child you have will always love you far more than any man ever could and you will realize that you will love your child far more than you could ever love a man.

Joni you've got a great att_tude.

trudy is right. get with it joni!

You of all people should not be giving advice about this. You post "Questions on Government a__sistance" You don't want to list the father on your child's birth certificate because you don't want to deal with him. But yet you tell this girl he is legally obligated to compensate her. Take your own advice you idiot!!!

I am not saying mMY CHILD WILL KEEP ME FROM HAPPINESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Trying to be a couple with the father was what I was referring to, and I would appreciate it in the future if you would refrain from making judgements about my intelligence level. It's a little too late for I never should have slept with him, don't act like you have never believe a lie before, you are not better than me and I do not appreciate your att_tude

I found out today that I am about 11 weeks along and my baby will be due sometime near my own birthday!! Meanwhile, daddy is still angling for the abortion, he doesn't know how far along I am though, I don't really like talking to him anymore. I am not sure how much contact I should have with him. And these are the joys of single motherhood!

"Part of me wants us to be together so we can be strong for our child, but in my heart I feel like that would cheat me of my chance of finding someone I truly love and truly loves me." You post a question on an open forum. You want different opinions. You got different opinions. I'm sure you are a very smart girl, don't feel insecure about your own intelligence. I'm so sorry you feel that way.

we first of all just cause you are having a child does not mean that you need to be with the father to be strong for your child. and it sounds like it would be harder to be with him then to be alone. but don't deny him the right to be involved. just be honest and let him makes the moves to be involved. and you be strong and take it easy. there are lots of pregnancy counslers and they can help you with tons of things from clothes for you and baby to funding and daycare. so check that out and just keep your head up. but don't let him treat you wrong. because guy do what they know they can get away with. so set your expectations... and stick to them.