Is No Daddy Better Than A Bad Daddy
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So, here I am pregnant for 5 weeks now and I confronted the father. He says "no way...it can't be mine" (we have been together for a month and a half). Of course, it is his if he's the only man I have slept with! Anyways, I am sure I could force myself on him but, I am not sure he is someone I want in my or my childs life. He has a gambling, drinking,and smoking weed problem. My thoughts are we are better off with out him.
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You have been dating for 6 weeks and you are already 5 weeks pregnant... and the father has a gambeling, drinking and week problem...? You go fast girl!! What do you mean "force myself on him"? I think its a bit early and unfair to already want to exclude him from his child's life, especially since this was an obviously unplanned and enexpected pregnancy. It is always better to have some form of daddy unless he is a physical and emotional threat to you. Sounds like you just didn't pick too carefully.
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You have to do what is best for the child. Take your emotions for him out of the scenario and evaluate whether you think he would be safe for your child. You will probably get a lot of replies on here saying the father should be involved no matter what and you will get a few like mine. Just remember, none of us know your situation like you. You are this childs mother, if you don't feel safe with this guy, trust your instincts. It all comes down to the safety of your child. I have an unfit childs father as well, and I have chosen not to let him be involved. He has the option to straighten his life around and then I will reconsider, but not until then. I have gotten some c___p on this site for my decision, but I could care less. Noone knows my situation like I do, and I know I made the best choice for my child. Take care of yourself right now and try not to worrry about this decision right away. You have some time. He may prove himself definitely one way or the other in the meantime. Good luck!!
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Oh, and skyeblue, I don't think at this point it really matters whether she picked to carefully. Obviously we can't turn back time. I guess you have never made a mistake, huh. Why can't we just offer her the advise she asked for without judging her decisions. Its like that all over the "single and Pregnant" portion of the forum. People ask for advise and everyone wants to judge. How unfair.
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If you re read my post, I did offer advice. I suppose as it didn't come out sweet sounding you misinterpreted it. Sorry. I just think that after getting pregnant one week after meeting a guy and then a few weeks later already concluding that she is "better off without him", is a bit too soon to PASS JUDGEMENT (like you say my response does). Obviously this was unexpected and unplanned from both sides and it will take time to adjust to the huge scope of the reality of it all. Good luck!
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