Little Support For Pregnancy
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I am just looking for some advice regarding how to handle other people's lack of support. I am 34 and my fiance and I broke up last spring. Needless to say, people took sides after the break up and his family friends don't like me, mine don't like him. There are strong feelings on both sides. The truth is somewhere in the middle. Well since then we have been working things out (without anyone else involved.) We are much closer and stable and we simply had to tell everyone we have worked things out and were back together. Before we decided to do that, I became pregnant...he is actually beyond supportive and beyond happy about this. I was a bit shocked by that to say the least. I thought he would be terrified. He is out buying gifts and maternity clothes and making financial plans. I was all set to do this on my own, as we are most likely not ready for the added pressure and the chances of things working out long term have just been complicated. We have not been stable and at peace together very long. Hence my being on this sight, I am prepared to be single parent. Being 34 and pregnant for the first time, I am pretty happy about this. I would do this with or without him. My concern: I know for a fact that all "others" are going to look at me VERY negatively. I am sure people will think I did this on purpose, others will not support this at all (I think this applies to my family and friends and his.), some may be outright hostile. The only people that are happy are he and I. I am beyond happy. SO, does anyone have any advice for dealing with the rest of the world being negative about the pregnancy??? I am not a child myself anymore...I am 34 years old and I do want this. I am just worried about the lack of supportive and judgement from everyone else. My own mother will most likely doubt this and ask me what I am thinking. I am adult for crying out loud, but would like someone/anyone in my family or friends to be happy for me. While I am happy to have his support, I feel I don't have the support of anyone else in my life or his me, and instead I will get the extreme opposite. Support helps. Any suggestions to cope with this???
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 | rl - December 21 |
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well since you are not a child and your are an adult you should sit your family and friends that are involved in this down and tell them what is going on and tell them how you feel and you do not need to be told what to do or how to do it that you need only their support and love and he should do the same and the ones in your lives that can not or will not do that then I say avoid them atleast until you get thru your pregnancy then you can go from there really anyone that loves and cares about you will go along with your wishes and that goes for his side as well if they love and care about him then they will respect your choices good luck and congrats on your pregnancy!!
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