Not Looking For Judgement Just Support
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Hi, I am 16 weeks pregnant tomorrow. This is my third pregnancy, my oldest is 7 years and my son is almost 9 months. I didn't plan on getting pregnant this soon after, but we didn't really try to prevent it either. My boyfriend has chosen to live a life of drinking and partying instead of being a family man and raising his children, so we have recently parted ways. Now, I have always been against abortion personally, but won't condemn anyone who chooses this for themselves. My ex and his family, along with my family are COMPLETELY against even the idea. But for the past few weeks I have been thinking about how on earth I will be able to juggle a career, that is still pretty fresh, I have been here full time for less than a year. As well as three children! Alone, no less!!!! So I decided that the best thing for everyone would be abortion, I booked the appointment, and my flight to the community where I would have to have it done. But now my ex and I started talking again the other night and now I think about what would happen if I go through with it. First of all, I'd have to live with that guilt for the rest of my life! Second, I wouldn't be able to keep that a secret from him should we ever get back together. And what would I tell my mother, I can't lie to the entire world about this!!??!! I am really leaning towards just not going, but I wonder what is really best? Do I leave my job for a year to raise babies (mat leave of course) and somehow do this on my own, or do I go to the appointment, and do this thing to my unborn baby that never even asked for this!!????!! Jeezus! This shouldn't even be a question but I guess I just need to hear that other people have done it and so can I! Sorry for the long post.
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I also want to mention that the other day, I was at work and it was right after I got off the phone with the clinic telling me when the appointment was for, when our receptionist walked in with a boquet of flowers for me. There was a note attached that said "Know that you are loved and appreciated by God and others, including me. Thanx for being you!" It was really sweet and just made me wonder since it was annonymous, and coming right after I made this appt.
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ok, I had an abortion about a year and a half ago. It is not an easy decision and never will be. It hurts and it takes time to get over. I know i did the right thing. I am now 30 weeks pregnant with my first child and still not very prepared emotionally, I know that a year and a half ago i couldn't give a child what it needs. Secondly, if you can't lie about what you are thinking about doing then don't. It is your decision and sometimes people just have to except that they have different opinions. Your parents especially should be supportive of any decision you make. And lastly, you sound to me like having this abortion isn't soemthing you actually want to do and I can tell you that IF this is the case then it is illegal for the clinic to perform the operation. I was booked in to have this pregnancy aborted because thats what his father wanted me to do but i was so distressed that they turned me away and i'm glad they did. I don't think anyone has the right to judge you either way but I do ask you to be certain that this is what you want, and for yourself- regardless of whether this guy wants in or not. Good luck
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Do NOT have an abortion. There is a mairacle inside of you. This is a beautiful thing. Have faith in God and he will provide for you. Murdering your child is not going to solve anything for you. That child did not ask to be put here and has a right to live and not have it's own mother kill it. Please don't be selfish and take away your babys life just because it will be a struggle. You did the deed now take responsibility. How could you be that far along and not have bonfded with that child already. I don't agree at any stage but 15 weeks? Please don't. You and your baby are in my prayers. Please don't take away his/her life.
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You sound likea very strong woman and you can do this!!! Listen to what you are saying. You don't want to do this in your heart. I can tell from your post. Be strong for you and your family. No one ever said it will be easy but it's the right thing to do. Follow your heart. This is your child. Don't kill it. No money or career in the whole world is worth taking a life, especially one you helped create. That baby is dependent on you to take care of it.
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Thank you for all your responses! I just had a chance to check this thread and see them. I actually cancelled the appointment this morning and yesterday afternoon booked my second prenatal appointment. You are right, I knew in my heart taht I couldn't do it, I guess I just needed to hear it from someone else. Jstar, Thank you for saying those things. You sound a lot like my motherand I can't tell her that I was thinking about it, so it's nice to hear her words anyways. :) Thank you all again, I am now free to enjoy my pregnancy and my baby. I wish you all the best!
God Bless!
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oh, Yay! I'm so glad!!! And you're very welcome! A happy and healthy 9 months to you! Everything will be fine, you are doing the right thing!
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OMG Im SOOO HAPPY you didnt go through with it! You sound like a GREAT mother with a wonderful heart ! Good luck to you!
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if you are with a guy like that, my advice would NOT get back with him, no matter whether you keep the baby or abort it. your kids dont need to be around that kind of lifestyle. this is just my opinion, i dont want to offend you or anything. Good Luck :)
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