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Hi, I am 22 years old and I have just found out that I am 8 weeks pregnant, I do have a boyfriend but we have only been together for about 2 months. My boyfriend does not want this baby and we have both spoke about it and have decided together that it would not be a good idea to keep it. I have no money myself although I do have a job but he does not as he is still at uni. Im really scared about this abortion and know that my baby is already pretty well formed. I have an appointment at the clinic for a check up to make sure that I am fit to have a termination and if so I will have one pretty soon after the check up. The thing is I cant stop thinking that if my boyfriend told me he wanted me to keep the baby I would and I have also pictured myself holding and loving it. I know lots of people are against abortion but I also know that this could be the best for me my boyfriend and the baby. Please has anybody else been or going through this? Please advise!!!! Thankyou
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 | EC - January 6 |
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I was in a similar situation such as yourself, but I decided to keep the baby. Me and the father had only been an Item for about 2 months than the next thing we know I'm preg. He didn't want me to have it and I also felt I was not ready to have a child. Once I had my first sonogram I stopped thinking about his wishes or mine and started thinking about the child. God blessed me with child for a reason so I decided to keep my baby. I am now 9 months and can't wait and neither can my boyfriend. It was hard at first because we got into alot of arguments about me keeping the baby but once I started to show he fell in love with my stomach and his future child. Don't know if this was any help but just follow your heart. I wish you the best.
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I had an abortion about 4 years ago and I truly belive I did the right thing at the time. My bf (he is now my husband and we are prego again this time planned) was in University at the time and we knew we could not afford to have a child. I have always wnated the best of everything for my children and never want to deny them anything they deserve. So for that reason and more I went ahead with the abortion. I will always think of it, but I don't regret it. It was very early in the pregnancy, and I did not go for any sonograms or anything like that. There is a website you should check out... www.imnotsorry.net When you read some of the stories you'll realize that it's a hard choice to make but the once you make the decision to go ahead with an abortion it changes you in a way that you become a stronger person. I have to say that it's not for everyone and adoption is another choice, so is having the baby and keeping it...but those were not options that I wnated to explore at the time. You should also know that there are alot of anti-abortion site and videos out there. Be very careful in your research because you will come across things that try to scare you. There is one called silent screams...and I have to tell you that non of that is true! It's made by an anti abortion group design to scare the hell out of you. It's all lies; common sense and science can prove that this video is all lies. So I know it's a tough choice and altimately it's you who will have to make this decision. But know that no matter what you choose there are others out there like you and you are not alone. I for one am not regreting my decision, and have moved on to make a better life for my self and my future childern. Best of luck to you, I'll be thinking of you and if you need more info feel free to let me know.
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you should keep the baby it not right to have have abortion do what it right
don't let ur boyfriend take control of ur life and ur decision there is alway place that u can go to for help
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Emma, just to give you my story it may or may not help at the end of the day you have to follow your heart but please dont feel pressured into anything or have an abortion just to keep your boyfriend happy. I too got pregnant when I was with my boyfriend two months however as I am 40 I decided I would keep the baby as I would probably never have a chance again to have children ( this is my first child) at first my boyfriend was happy and wanted us to get married and I guess when reality sank in he changed his mind and told me he did not feel the same about me and therefore could not tell me what to do about the baby. I am eight months pregnant now and I have not heard from him in 4 months. I cannot tell you it has been easy what wtih hormones and facing it alone but I have my family and the little baby growing inside me. I am glad I made the decision I did. Although you have a lot more time than me to become pregnant again. Be very sure what decision you make and I wish you the very best at this difficult time. Peace and love
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 | r - January 11 |
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It looks like you have answers here from those who have gone through this before with different results. Well, my advice to you is, listen to the logic of your own heart. No one can make this dicision for you but you. Don't ever worry about people judging you becuase wheather you have this child out of wedlock or have an abortion or give it up for adoption there are people out there who will judge just because they are not in your shoes. So what ever you choose to do make sure it's what YOU want. It's a very difficalt choice and as long as you are sure of the choice you make you will not have any regrets.
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Yes I know its hard for you ,but you'll later understand that it was better to keep the baby than your guy.
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Look I'm just 14yrs old and eventhough the baby's father wasen't with me I was able to keep my baby , without any of his help.Believe me now that I have him ,I stop and think how would my life been if I had aborted him.
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if you dont want your baby then why not give it up for adoption? my husband and i have been wanting to dopt for a while now because we cant have biological children of our own! if you choose to put your baby up for adoption, then please contact me1 i would love to bring your baby into my home and raise it like my own child! i would also want you to share in the childs life as well but please dont kill the poor baby or anything like that!!!! PLEASE CONTACT ME AT: astrarain25@yahoo.com
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Please email me before you have an abortion, there are things you need to know before you have one. I will not try to change your mind only give you some much needed info, before you make any final decisions. kitaarnes@aol.com
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emma have u thought about placeing ur baby for adoption. instead of and abortion, theres many people that would love it and be able to take care ur baby, and provide a good and stable life for your child.
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 | - August 28 |
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did you know that your baby can feel pain, so the baby would suffer badly.
please think first
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