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That is a guy for you. i told my b/f about our baby and he said it was someone eles's. Who knows. Talk to your ex fiance about it. Just maybe things will!!!!! Good Luck & Hang in There

god it seems like i relate to everyone on this page. i am 8 weeks pregnant. it was not planned at all but i was in the most loving committed relationship i ever experienced in my life, so when i found out i knew everything would be okay. well everything is not okay. the man i love disappeared the moment i told him i was pregnant and i have no idea who he is. i finally kicked him out tonight. the man doesnt hide his anger and resentment towards my decision to keep our child. he says he wants to be with me, loves me, but too young for children. i wont have an abortion. and i have a hatred for him for acting so selfish and wrong. the funny thing is all we ever did was talk about having children, but as soon as it happened the man i fell in love with changed. i cant tell you how much i mis him. how lonely and depressed and absolutely devestated i am. sometimes i dont think i can get pa__sed the day. i feel like i lost my best friend. but i keep thinking that this man isnt the man i thought he was. and i have a new best friend, my child. i hope every woman on this page finds the strength to get through this being without the man they loved. im hoping the love i will feel for my child will eventually take away the pain he has caused.

Wow, I'm in the same boat as Jessicah and Mary. I've been with my bf for 3yrs and I'm now having my first child with him. I too thought everything was perfect and that it was just HIM and I but I was wrong. I later found out that he had a girlfriend on the side...or was I on teh side? I don't even know. I'm super angry and hurt because he led me to believe that all was going to be good and that him and I would be a-okay. I feel he left me with false hopes and dreams of a future and when I think about him touching her the way he touches me, it makes me SICK! Anyways...I found this out about a month and a half ago. We still communicate and some days are good days but most days are horrible days. I'm not sure what he's going to do after the baby is born, but I sure as hell am not going to sit around and wait for him to tell me that he wants to be with her and not me. I've told him that I can no longer go through this, especially once the baby arrives, it's not the kind of life I want to give to my baby and no matter how much I love him (my bf) he's not worth messing up my baby's life. I basically said to him, if he's not ready to become serious about this and get his life and priorities in order and make a decision, then he's not ready to be in my childs life. Simple as that. It hurts me like HELL because to this day, I still don't know if he's lying to me and still being with this other woman, but I gotta do what's best for me and my baby.

A LOT OF YOUNG WOMEN SEEM TO THINK HAVING A BABY WITH SOMEONE YOU THINK YOU LOVE CAN HOLD A MAN. IAM HERE TO SAY IT AIN'T SO. YOU KNEW BEFORE THE PREGNANCY THAT HE WAS TREATING YOU LIKE S**T. SO YOU SHOULD HAVE DID SOME HARD THINKING BEFORE YOU LAID DOWN WITH HIM UNPROTECTED. MEN OR SHALL I SAY BOYS IN THIS DAY AND AGE DON'T WORRY ABOUT HOW WE WOMEN FEEL EMOTIONALLY, BECAUSE HALF THE TIME THEY ARE THINKING WITH THE HEAD IN THEIR PANTS NOT THE ONE ON THEIR SHOULDERS. KEEP YOUR DISTANCE FROM HIM AND JUST TALK TO HIM IN RELATION TO YOUR CHILD. IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK YOU ABOUT THE BABY THEN TAKE HIM TO CHILD SUPPORT AND LET THEM TALK TO HIM ABOUT WHAT HE NEEDS TO DO FOR THE BABY. HE WILL SEE WHEN CHILD SUPPORT GARNISHES THAT PAY CHECK. JUST CONCENTRATE ON YOUR BABY THINGS WILL BE ALL WELL ONCE YOU GET THE HANG OF BEING A MOM. WHEN YOU SEE WHAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF YOU WON'T FEEL SO BAD. JUST NOTE THIS IF HE WANTS TO BE A FATHER AND NOT A BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND LET HIM BE A FATHER THE WORST THING A MOTHER CAN DO TO HER CHILD IS HENDER A RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN FATHER AND CHILD. HE MAY NOT NOTICE YOU NOW, BUT WHEN THAT BABY COMES AND BEGINS TO FEEL THE PARENT INSTINCT, LATER ON DOWN THE LINE HE WILL REGRET NOT BEING WITH YOU AND THE BABY AS A FAMILY. BE STRONG DON'T LET NO MAN PUT US UNDER. TIME WILL HEAL YOUR PAIN. I ONLY SAY ALL OF THIS TO YOU AS ADVICE BECAUSE I WAS IN YOUR SHOES SIX YEARS AGO. I LEFT WITH OUR SON AND NEVER RETURNED, BUT MY SON AND HIS FATHER HAVE GOOD RELATIONSHIP, AND NOW HIS FATHER WISHES HE WOULD HAVE DONE THINGS A LITTLE DIFFERENT, BUT IT IS TOO LATE NOW GOD HEALED MY WOUNDS AND I HAVE MOVED ON AND SO WILL YOU. GOOD LUCK AND KEEP SMILING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't let him make you feel bad. You are going through enough right now and he should be there for you...

It okay. Sometimes is the best thing for you and your unborn to not be together. At least he will be there for the baby and if you need him he will be there. My baby's father stays in CA and we are not together, but he will be there for his child no matter what. It hurts me to knowing that my child will not get to see its father everyday. I will pray for you. Keep your head up and everything will be alright.

I thought there for a minute you had my life history...well I'm 7 weeks preg. and the father wants me to have a abortion...we havent been together that long....and we are both going through other financial changes....he and his divorce getting custody of his two sons...and I'm already a single parent of two boys....their father and I have been divorced for almost 7 years...I'm getting old and I cant see myself having a abortion either...I havent told anyone but him....and he thinks that I have had a abortion but I HAVENT....i CARE ABOUT HIM BUT every day i'm leraning more and more about him....things that would have turned me away from him in the beginning....it's just that this will be my first time being preg and alone with out the babies father around...should i just keep this a secret until the baby is born...and call him up and say it's a girl.....i'm praying that it's a girl....oh by the way i get really emotional when ever i talk to him is this normal...

I am in exactly the same predicament with my fiance. We are breakup/ make up all the while I am pregnant, but the main difference is that our main problem is that he doesn't kow how to be supportive and respect me. But that does go along with your fiance (kind of). Playing the make up game gets so old, and apparently having him back doesn't work either because he doesn;t want to change. By accepting him back, you would have to accept those things you cannot stand. The only way you can combat those things is to be firm with what you want by doing exactly what you are doing- putting that behavior out. If he's worth it, he'll come to his senses. If you jave any other questions or wanna chat bout it. email misustexas18@yahoo.com

Well, it is as if we are living the same life. I am also pregnant, my ex and I were together for 5 years as well, and well still came around because he still "loved me" well, now I am pregnant and while he really wants this child also feels the need to keep on living his life, while as a woman, my life as I know it is over, my life is this child now, and the reality is that things are going to be very difficult. We have been fighting about this issue becuase he wants to experience other women, but I am pregnant, and he does not understand that that is so hurtful. I don't what kind of advice you need, and I wish I had some to give to myself. We need to be strong, for our children, because when it comes down to it actions speak louder than words, and what are these men saying.

I'm 9 weeks pregnant with my second child by a different person. I should've learned from my first relationship to be more cautious of men...but what can I say, they catch us off guard. My boyfriend one minute will tell me that we are going to be married, and have a family together (very genuine) and then no joke the next day will tell me I'm annoying him and he doesn't want to talk to me or see me. I don't know about yall but I'm very emotional right now. I've cried and cried my heart out over every little thing, and this is just so much more un needed added stress. As bad as I want to say bye I don't need you, I do want to be with him. I'm torn. I don't know what to do. I hate feeling like I'm alone. All I can do is pray for strength to get through it, and that the answer will come to me. Any advice from anyone on how to be strong and not pick up the phone to call and apologize for God knows what I didn't even do? Thanks.

Tanisha, I am 28 and in a similar situation, except we are married and going through divorce now, but every time we fight it gets worse and worse and being pregnant is hard enough, until one day I just said enough....but like always after we are separate the lonliness sets in and you feel sad and you just want to go back to the way things were even if they were bad b/c after so long of doing it it's normal and feels safer than the unknown, This is my third separation with him and I now see the same pattern we go in every time....My husband was never willing to do anything to change his behavior, and I could not do it for him...if nothing changes you can't expect different results no matter how many times you go back...believe me I thought for sure things would be better this time around. It's easy at first because of all the anger, and then you have to deal with your other feelings. I wish you the best and hope you can be strong. You could meet someone down the road who could be a wonderful father and loving husband...good luck

I wrote on June 27th...I feel that I have a lot in common with you women and I feel that a support network would be worthwhile...if anyone cares to connect my email address is leena_langlois25@hotmail.com...I'm on messenger also, so let me know who you are when you add me and let's get together.