Pregnant And Hate The Father
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Just wondering if anyone else has gone through this. I'm single and pregnant with my first child from a man I've known about 5 months. The pregnancy was not planned, but abortion isn't for me.
Anyways when I was just dating him I liked him, but didn't love him. He claimed to "love" me after only 1 month. Anyways since the pregnancy, both of our leases have expired so we moved in together. I wish I never had.
I can not STAND this man. He claimed to have wanted this child, but he hasn't put forth hardly any money or effort in regards to the pregnancy. I've been keeping up with my half of the bills, but it's been hard cause my first trimester I was REALLY fatigued and he didn't offer to take up any of the slack.
Also he has a son who's 9 from a previous marraige and it took him FOREVER to tell his son about this pregnancy. I had to almost threaten him to do it.
Since the beginning of this pregnancy, this guy has been whiney and continued to badger me about s_x even though I wasn't into it. I gave in a couple times but now the longer I'm with him the more I'm disgusted by him. I NEVER want to or will have s_x with him again.
I don't want this guy to be involved in my childs life at all, especially seeing how he screwed up with his first kid.
At first I thought it was just the horomones talking, but now I realize that it's not - this is how I really feel.
Has anyone else been through this?
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Yes. I went through almost the exact same thing. I was living with a man, we had a one year old son, and I was pg with our second. One day I woke up and realized that I hated that man. He was never mean and he worked to support us, but I just realized my life was going somewhere I never wanted to go. So, I told him to leave and never come back.....and he didn't. Not once did he ever try to see my boys again (actually, he never saw my youngest boy because I was still pg when he left). That was 16 years ago. I went back to school, have a great job. I have been married to the love of my life for nine years and he is the only father my boys have ever known. Sounds great, right? It is, but I actually do have some regrets about kicking him out of their lives. They had the right to know their father, to know that kind of love that comes from your real father. My husband is great to them, but there have been some step-parent issues that we've had to overcome. Anyway, my boys are wonderful, sweet young men, talented, smart and thoughtful. Who knows, they may not have turned out so good if they had been raised with their biological father. I hope everything goes the way you want it to. Good luck.
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I am similiar, although not the same. He is semi-moved in, stays there when we have a doctors appt and he has just made me feel awful the entire time. I dont know what to do.... How can I be stuck with him for the rest of my life?
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