Pregnant By A NFL Player So Alone
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I have been dating this guy off and on for six years. We met when we were both in high school. He is my first love, he is the only man to meet my mom and my family and I have met his mom and family as well. He got drafted this past April and everything seemed fine at first. But then he signed his contract and it seemed as though things started getting wierd between us. Then he told me at the end of June that I should keep my options open and that we wouldn't last with him now living in florida and me in maryland. It broke my heart, I cried uncontrollably for two weeks after but still I thought we had something and that the timing wasn't right. He came home in July and we had s_x. I had some drama with my pregnancy tests (testing neg until I finally discovered I am in fact pregnant). I thought it was because I had s_x at the end of my cycle, and also that must mean I am not. So here I am 8 weeks pregnant. I told him and his response was awful. He told me he wants me to get an abortion. That it would be the best thing for us, that he is extremely young (22) and that he has his whole life ahead of him. He said that he would have to quit football because he would have to be an active parent in the child's life. That all of his hard work would have been in vain. He also told me that we would have to take a blood test which I told him was more than fine with me. He asked me to take a picture of my stomach and send it to him and not to stick it out cuz he can tell. I was so hurt and insulted. I genuinely care(d) about him and never have had ill intentions towards him. I just thought he had a right to know what was going on. He later apologized. I know I shouldn't care about him anymore, but how could I have been so wrong about him all this time? How can I get over him? Since he is so busy, I sent him a text telling him I would get the abortion and he hasnt said anything...how can he not care about what I am going through? I tried to see if there were some free counseling but I went one place and I still felt alone because all she said was okay, okay. I really need someone to talk to. Thanks...btw I am new to the forum..hi everyone (o:
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oh honey! Don't have an abortion just because he wants you to!! You will just regret it in the future. Do what YOU think is right and YOU want to do. Because it doesn't matter what he says at this point. He doesn't sound too interested in having a relationship with you and seems more focused on thing to come with this draft. Please try to speak with someone else in your area because to let him influence your decision in this will only end in heartache. Good luck in whatever you choose and God bless.
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Hey I was in the same situation about a 2 weeks ago my boyfriend freaked and wanted and abortion, he was convinced he wasnt going to tell his parents at all. But having an abortion isnt his choice its yours and though yes he is the father still when it comes down to it, its your choice you have to be the one that lives with the decision you chose.Probably 2 weeks mabey 2 1/2 after i told him and he let it all sink in he finally told his parents and then he came around an appologized that he ever mentioned abortion and how he should of thought of me. I want you to know that you do not need a man to raise a baby although its easier you DO NOT need one. I hope you choose what is best for you.Have you told your parents yet?And you never know I no my boyfriend like the back of my hand and i never in a million years expected him to act like that so you never know mabey yours will come around. If you wanna talk or vent i'll be here becauseTrust me I know the stress I was their 3 weeks ago.
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to inuk, thanks..this will be his first season..right now he is buying a house, bought a Denali a day or two after he signed his contract in June so I am thinking he all about himself right now. But thank you so much. My sister, brother and cousin knows. A couple of my friends know. Generally everyone has said that they will be here for me. But a good portion have asked me what I expected considering his new status. Well I didn't expect this. I just recently stopped modeling and I would like to think that I would have never done that to him had I made it "big." But I think a lot of men get caught up in the women factor sigh. Thank you so much, I will definately think more about it.....Wyssa-- I would love if we could talk further, but I am sorry to say..but it doesn't look like he is going to come around, in fact it seems like he may never talk to me again, it makes me sad and upset that it took this to end 6 years of knowing each other. I have not told my mom because I don't know what I would say if she asked about his reaction. So how far along are you? are you guys still together? didn't it hurt you that he asked you to have an abortion?
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Hey im 6weeks4days, and yes he came around and he couldnt believe what a jerk he was. I understood becasue hes still in highschool we've been together for almost 3 years and have known eachother for 5 hes my first love and only love. He sat me down one day and just started crying that i should hate him, for ever suggesting it and that he hates himself for suggesting it. But needless to say were happy about the baby and cant wait we've always wanted to have kids just not this soon,but stuff happens and hes honestly excited. Yes it did hurt me i knew that he was just scared as was I and i even thought about having and abortion im not going to lie.But everyone just reasurred me everything would be alright and it was. His dad and his dad girlfriend want me to have the baby and his grandparents as well as my family. So everythings good with me except for his mom but thats another story. But other than that not a lot is happening with me today. I have a doc appt tomororw. Have you been to the docs yet. How far along are you?
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sadgirl, no problem! and just think of all the help you will get from people who do love you and will love this baby just as much. The only person going to be missing out is him, if he chooses to not be a part of this childs life. Yeah, I'm sure the women factor played a big part in him saying what he did. Your mother is your mother and regardless of what she says about his reaction, she will be there for you. Trust me, you can do this without him if you choose. Good luck
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I am now 29wks pregnant and was seeing the father of my baby for 5yrs. He too told me to get an abortion. Didn't 'ask' me but told me! It's YOUR body and if you have an abortion because he asked you to, you will never forgive yourself in the future and always wonder about the 'what-ifs.' This guy sounds very selfish and is only thinking about his $$ situation. This child could be the best thing that has ever happened to you, don't let him take that away from you. My ex and I aren't talking and I could care less. I have a beautiful healthy little girl growing inside of me that is depending on me to bring her safely into this world and shower her with all the love I have. I will not let her down! Good luck to you.
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all i have to say is the best of luck to you.. i was in a similar situation where he left me for another girl... told me tohave an abortion.. or go fall down a flight of stairs... and still to this day he has not apologized about it... and im 30 weeks pregnant... and that hurts like hell cause i know in my heart he was the one and he was my first and only love... and getting past that is the hardest thing... but honestly... being honest with your mom and talking with her will prolly be the best thing for you ... don't try to hide what he said... cause it will jus cause internal stress for you ... it did for me and i am still suffering for it today... you don;t need to be the one bearing the stress and the guilt... he does ... he's the one going to be missing out on a beautiful child and he's going to be the one missin out on a great life he would have with you.. and one day he will look back and realize that .. but right now he's obviously tooo blind... if u ever need to talk tho i am here for you ... you can contact me on aim too if u want .... stay well
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i havent gone to the doctor yet wyssa, i just started a new job and my insurance kicks in next month but I can not wait that long, I am trying to work something out. ....it is more comforting to know that I am not the only one who is going through this predicament. ..I would love to talk socur...my aim name is s_xyfemalemodel
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