Pregnant By My Neighbor Who Has A Family
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im 22 years old and 4 months pregnant by my neighbor we have been involved for 1 year he has 3 kids and been with his fiancee for 13 years ...i also was involved 3 year relationship and 3 kids also we started to care for each other as time went on his fiancee worked at a bar so she got home pretty late and he was not happy in his relationship and my relationship was horrible my fiancee spent his time in bars and almost never came home so i was constintly depressed ..so i found love in my neighbor and i ended up leaving my fiancee and then he told me he would also leave his fiancee for me casue he loved me and was happy with me but a year has passed and he still with her ....he lies to both me and her we are so gullible i guess caue we believe his bull ....but i recently found out i was pregnant on june 28th 2006 and he did leave her now ...we have been together for almost a month and its been great so far he wants to the baby but i feel terrible now that i have him im streesing my self so much ....i thought i would be so happy if he left her for me now im not so sure .......and as far as his x she aint going no where she is always harrasing me and calling me and yelling out side my home so when i told him to handle his wife because that was all unnessary hes a grown man hes 40 years old and he will do what he wants to do ....and screaming and yelling wont help.....so he went to handle it he ended up beating her up now hes in jail for assault if anyone has any advice for me and what you think i should do before he gets out of jail ...he can still always go back to her there fam is not ruined but i will feel horrible for breaking up his family and then ending up not wanting him help.......................
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debbie- as i said on the other post..a man has no right to ever hit a woman and if he hit her how long will it be before he starts hitting you because something doesnt go his way? i think that you should just leave him alone because if a man hits a woman 1 time he will likely do it again. and the next time it could be you and not the ex. think about the baby that you are pregnant with, what if he hit you while you were pregnant. i think that the best thing that you can do is leave him alone, and like you said now that you have him your not happy with him so why hang on to him. that is just my opinion. there are so many decent guys out there who would treat you so much better. you dont need the stress of him running back and forth all the time so just ket him go. i am not bashing you i am just telling you my honest opinion. when things get bad with you he will run back to her and when things are bad with her he will run back to you do you want to kive like that the rest of your life? i think you already know what you are going to do you just want to hear from others if you are doing the right thing by letting him go and i personally think that you are. do what you think is right because only you can make you happy. wait a year after you break up with him before you start looking for someone else, and always be honest with them and with yourself if the relationship is going nowhere then let it go and save yourself the heartache. you dont need a man in your life to be happy, but if you find a guy that loves only you and your child and doesnt already have a family that he keeps running back and forth to that is great..if not i am sure you are a strong woman and can be happy with you and your baby. i hope that this helps you some. please keep in mind that i am not being judgemental i am only giving advice so i hope that it doesnt come off as judgemental because that wasnt what i was trying to do.
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