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i think you should call him and give him the opportunity to be at the hospital with you when the baby's born b/c even though he's being an a$$ he is the father and deserves to know when his child is being born. don't call before then and try to get back together w/ him though cause that'll just push him farther away. he sounds like a real jerk who isn't worth it to me, but alot of guys who freak out during their women's pregnancies change after the baby's born. maybe your guys like that. anyway...i hope you have a wonderful rest of your pregnancy and stay strong, soon you'll be holding your beautiful baby

To be completely honest... I didn't call the father of my child until the day after our daughter was born. My ex had been a complete jerk to me through my whole pregnancy. He dumped me at 3 months pregnant, avoided me, and even went as far as to get engaged 3 months after he dumped me.. and THEN had the nerve to say he did nothing wrong. Anyway, during my pregnancy I thought I wanted him in the birthing room so he could witness the pain I would be going through (because he seems to think babies just slide right out.. pain-free). But my doctors and birth coach knew what I was going through, and how he had been treating me, and said that during labor you want to be as stress-free and relaxed as possible, so if he made me feel uncomfortable then it was alright for me to not allow him in the room. I wasn't completely sure of what I was going to do until the week before I went into labor. He emailed me. Just seeing his name in my email got me stressed. My heart started beating really fast... and I'm SURE my blood pressure went up.. just from seeing his name! At that point I knew I couldn't have him anywhere near me when I was in labor. He had never denied that she was his, he just never showed too much interest except for an occasional email. I don't regret what I did at all. I definitely think it was the right choice for us because my labor went really well. Then I took the next day to relax and finally called up my ex and told him she was born. He came to the hospital, signed all the paternity papers and held her, and everything was fine. (Until I filed for child support... haha.. then all of the sudden she wasn't his!) Anyway, it's completely up to you... do what makes YOU feel comfortable. Because when you're in labor... being relaxed and comfortable is what's best (and safest!) for both you AND your baby. Dad can wait.

Well my ex boyfriend iss also a complete a__s, i don't plan on telling him when the baby is born. He know when the due date is,i think its up to him to at least call and see if the baby has been born.

i totally agree with the other 2 woman . i am 5 months pregnant . just dumped my long term boyfrend of 5 years a week ago because he was a complete selfish arse hole who wanted everything his own way . he told me 2day that he is going back to his own country very soon . i am also not planning to tell him when i have the baby . he knows when it is due . he knows where i live . i am not going chase after him . if he wants to get to know the baby , he knows where i am . it is his choice ! don't waste your time on these b___ds . i presume he knows where you live . let him do all the running around . don't make his life any easier . us and our unborn babies are important now . we have to think of ourselves now . anyway good luck and don't tell him !

I completely agree with the last 3 comments. Don't make anything easier on him. He didn't want to make things easier on you while you were going through your pregnancy. If he was concerned he would call before your due date and see how you are and ask you to call when you go into labor. If you were to call him and he didn't care then that would just put a lot more stress on you. Good Luck!