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OMG I signed up just to reply to you!!! we are going through almost the same thing!! Im 5weeks and I have two boys from my ex husband. They are 5 &6. I got Preg. the first time I slept with my new boyfriend. He knew I wasn't on BC and he knew I wouldn't consider abortion..yet he keeps trying to pressure me to...I say we both should say screw everyone and be happy!!! We are strong and we don't need a man to justify having a baby, its a gift from God! So reply back please!!

So how should I approach telling my boys about the baby??? I was gonna wait till I start showing...

THANK YOU FOR REPLYING TO ME! I REALLY APPRECIATE IT.I KNOW THAT I SHOULD SCREW WHAT EVERYONE SAYS BUT ITS HARD WHEN YOU COUNT ON YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILIES SUPPORT. RIGHT NOW I JUST DONT WANT HIM TO BE IN MY LIFE WHEN THE BABY IS BORN HE CAN BE A PART OF HIS/HER LIFE I NEED TO BE ME AND THIS TIME NEEDS TO BE FOR MYSELF SINCE I JUST DONT WANT TO BE WITH HIM. HE SAYS IM SELFISH BECAUSE IM BRINGING A CHILD TO THIS WORLD WITH OUT HIS PARENTS BEING TOGETHER. I DOUBTED MY DECISION AT FIRST BUT NO ONE WILL PRESSURE ME TO MAKE A DECISION THAT WILL AFFECT ME IN THE LONG RUN. AS FOR YOU AND THIS GUY PRESSURING YOU I THINK YOU SHOULD FORGET ABOUT WHAT HE THINKS AND SAYS. I SUGGEST YOU DO WHAT YOUR HEART TELLS YOU AND WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT. LIKE YOU SAID ITS A GIFT FROM GOD AND THATS THE WAY IT IS. THE WAY YOU SHOULD APPROACH THEM IS BY SITTING DOWN AND GIVE THEM EACH A BABY GIFT......FROM THERE THAT WOULD MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND AND THEY WILL BE EXCITED TRUST ME!!! =0)

What should you do? well I'm sure you already know what that is. If people are deliberately trying to hurt your feelings with their opinons, I would stop them in mid-sentence or before they even start. I would say, if you aren't going to be supportive and encouraging I don't want to hear it, I have had a rough start with this pregnancy and I am not going to let it happen anymore. Keep yourself surrounded by people with good hearts and who are supportive. Keep yourself away from judgemental, insensitive a-holes. As for the father, if he just cannot get it through his head no matter how many times you explain to him....I would take a break. Tell him you are keeping this baby, Don't want to be with him, You want to be civil towards eachother, and no matter what he says or does will change your decision because it is final. Things will turn around for you, just keep your foot down and do not let people bully you. Good luck and stay strong =]

wow, i was reading your response to heather27 where you said "HE SAYS IM SELFISH BECAUSE IM BRINGING A CHILD TO THIS WORLD WITH OUT HIS PARENTS BEING TOGETHER." and my jaw hit the floor because he said the same exact thing to me!! the only difference is i was in love with him when i got pregnant but we were only together for a few months so now that i'm pregnant and have been with him for a little while longer i'm finding out more and more about him. he's not a bad person but he's just not for me. not the same outlook, goals, or morals. i am soooo depressed and scared. but it's not right for me to not be happy and stay with him because we have a child together. the other hard thing too is i'm not just loosing him but his family too! so confused and love to be in someone elses shoes right now. girl if other women have gone through it we can too. honestly i know we all look to friends and family for support in what we do but ultimately it's you that has to live with yourself so you need to do what's best for you and your unborn. good luck ma.

You don't have to love the father to love your child. People should understand that, its not very complicated.

i say screw everyone and what they think because it is you that has to live with your decision, and as someone in a position similar to yours, i think what you are doing is great. if it works for you and it makes you feel good, than do it!

honey, we are all in the same position... i wish i never met this kid and he's all up in my life trying to "be there"... im pregnant, not dying and i can't stand him... he seriously makes me sick... im stuck with him forever now... i basically told him he would be granted his rights through the courts and that would have to be it... im not going to willingly hand my baby, soon to be MY LIFE over to someone i hate and DEF can't trust... anyways... i just want you to know that you're not alone and im so happy that somewhere out there someone else is going through what i am!!! XoXoXo Amaleigh