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We had just recently found out about our unplanned pregnancy. Both of our lives have been turned upside-down as a result. Scared, confused and lost are just a few words describing how we feel, that’s why we need advice. Our relationship towards one another is good, however we hardly know each other. We met last summer and have only hung out a few times. We know we have three options to choose from abortion, adoption and to keep the child. We are not sure which is the best decision and we want to make the right one. My views are leading to abortion but she is unsure. This leads to frustration and fighting. I told her last night about recently seeing another girl and really like her and want to start a relationship with her and this would affect me. What should I do?
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hi turkey, that definitely a tough situation to be in. I won't lecture you, but really, you should have thought about the consequences of s_x with someone you "hardly know." Of course, now the point is futile. I don't know what to advise you, but I will say that that you show a lot of maturity to be honest with the girl and tell her you are thinking of starting a new relationship. The bottom line is you can give her your opinion on what you guys should do about the unplanned pregnancy, but, ultimately, it is her choice as to what to do. I hope that whatever is decided it turns out for the best. If she keeps the baby, you are not obligated to stay with her but you are obligated by law to pay child support. Good luck.
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Yeah, don't make her keeping the baby sound like its ruining your life, it will be hard on her as well. And besides if she does keep the baby and it has an effect on this other girl then she isn't worth dating anyways because she don't love you for you and she can't accept that you will have a child. I don't think you should go with abortion, its not the babies fault you had s_x, I say either adoption or her keep the baby, either way if you kill an innocent child over your own mistake I say you are very selfish and you aren't mature about this situation at all. The least you can do is convince her of an open adoption if you or her can't handle it but she still wants to be there. If not that then just an adoption or keep it. But ITS NOT THE BABIES FAULT ITS YOURS, and you killing this poor child is the saddest and most ungrateful thing you COULD EVER DO. and if I was this other girl, that alone would make me want to have nothing to do with you. If you like this otehr girl so much you need to talk with her as well and see what she thinks if you are so much more worried about her then your own d__n child.
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I hvae to agree, the guy that i just had my third son with, was the same way, he was all about "get this abortion or dont talk to me" & callin me down & now that the child is here, he wants pix & stuff but dont want nuttin to do with my baby! it aint right... that guys get all the pleasure & the girls get all the pain! but i think by you abortin this child aint gonna make ya any happier, could only leave you with the guilty aftermath... but its ur life, ur choice & you gotta decide & live with it, & im suree no one can tell you what to do, you two gotta take it from ur own hearts... but thats my opinion!
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I wont give you my views on prolife/choice..however, I will say that with any of your choices it will affect the rest of your life. I would suggest that you both need a serious heart to heart. I am married and have 2 children plus one on the way. I was faced with your choices many years ago and regret the decsion that I made. Think long and hard before you decide
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