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My husband & I have a 2 1/2 yr old & have been separated for the last 7 months; he is moved out. We had been trying to work on it, but when we had an oops a few weeks ago, my husband freaked out & took this as a sign he hoped we dont get pregnant & we should finally separate for good. Now, I find out I am pregnant & cant figure out to keep it or not. Im afraid if I get rid of it I will have a ton of regret & also seal the fate of our marriage of being over. If I keep it, I will be making a harder life for myself & put two kids thru a divorce, but its also a hope we will reconcile. Any advice? Please no pro-life lecturing, this is an extremely hard decision without that guilt.
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Getting pregnant from goodbye s_x makes for a really complicated situation. Hugs! The child you already have together ensures that the two of you will have some kind of relationship, hopefully a civil one, for the rest of your lives. Please dismiss any thinking that an additional child will help repair the marriage. Terminating a pregnancy is not an easy decision, but it is taken by between one third and one half of all women in the USA during their reproductive years. Yes, you will have some regrets which will fade over time, but you know what it takes to raise a child when there are two of you, and this time you will be on your own. Good luck in the days ahead!
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My husband & I have been separated since February but we were still having s_x because we loved and missed each other. We had been trying to get pregnant for years (We were married for 10+ years) & we even went to a fertility clinic. Of course I got pregnant a couple of months after we were separated. I decided to keep the baby because I am 35 years old and this is my 1st pregnancy. I feel like it was meant to be. I know my future will be difficult without him but I have a great support system. I'm not sure what you will do because everybody's situation is different. A baby is a blessing but it may not fix your marriage. I know of lot of women who did terminate their pregnancies and have the biggest regret afterwards. It is your ultimate decision. Does your husband know about this pregnancy?
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Grandpa viv when was your last abortion???? I had an abortion when I was 18 and now ten years later me regret is worse than when I first got it. The regret never fades and even rape victims who have an abortion feel extreme regret for the reest of their lives. People may say the regret fades that cause they don't really want everyone to know how sad and ashamed they feel of being in that situation. There are times in your life where the regret becomes extreme and you have to deal with it. As for the lady writing this post it's your decision and no judgement towards you I just don't like how men tell us how we would feel afterwards when they have never been in this situation themselves. Ps grandpa viv be careful on some of the advise you give people like this coment as if someone takes your advise and does have an abortion thinking the regret will fade they may end up killing themselves or messing their lives up as this is not the case for MOST women.
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If you are single and pregnant, you don't have to be! Check out my profile for Facebook page information on finding a man that will love and adore you during and after your pregnancy, or search 'pregnant and single' in Facebook. I have even established a Yahoo group called 'PREGNANTNSINGLENLA' to put single pregnant women together with men who possess a strong s_xual fetish for pregnant woman. So, if you're still pregnant and single, that is purely your choice as you don't have to be.
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