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Hi Renee, Is is definately in your place to tell them and I think (hope) that they would be grateful that you are taking the initiative to do so. Hopefully they will be supportive of you and want a relationship with their grandchild...hopefully. Do you have contact or ways to contact your ex. Maybe you should tell him of your plans...what do you think? Good luck!!

Yes - tell them. Not only will it enrich your child's life but it will force your ex to face his actions - believe me, his parents will have a LOT to say to him.

Thanks. I do have an address and I think i can get a phone number for his parents. I just dont want to make the situation worse by "telling on him" like we are kids. I know his older sister knows, but as far as he has told me, he hasn't told his parents and he wants to terminate his parental rights. I think if I told him I was planning on telling them he would be even more angry with me then he already is. I guess I shouldn't care, but I cant help but hope that he'll come around and atleast learn to accept his child, even if that doesn't include him having a relationship with me.

I actually did this when I was pregnant with DD1, I wrote his parents a letter then called them a few weeks later and his dad told me that they didn’t believe that the baby was their sons, so once she was born I took him to court to get child support and to no surprise he requested a paternity test, the judge said “sure” and made him come up with the money to pay for it since he was requesting it, of course it came out that he was the father….Anyways to make a long story short the grandparents and the biological father have never seen her or contacted her buy their request…its been almost 8 years….bunch of jerks..

Opps, sorry for rambling on but in my opinion they will find out eventually from him or his sister. Its hard to keep something like that from the family, looking back on my situation I’m glad I did talk to them, at least I knew where they stood., just be prepared for what ever they come back with good or bad.

I would tell his parents, they do have a right to know they're about to become grandparents and even if they choose to not be a part of that child's life at least you know where they stand. if you dont tell them your child could miss out on a possibly special relationship with them. good luck!!

sweety, tell them. same thing happened to me and they were so happy to meet my daughter! They want to have a relationship with her and begged me to bring her around. They also gave me a nice amount of money to buy her some things..They deserve a chance, go for it.

What is in the dark always come to light. It may not be now, but it will be. I chose not to notify my ex's parents. If he doesn't want to tell them, then that is up to him. he'll live with that. (Trust me, he will). As long as you have a very supportive family, your child may not miss out on her paternal grandparents. Depending on the type of person he is, notifying his parents may make the situation worse. (Just my opinion). You never know how this may all play out once the child is here. My ex said the same to me and now my daughter is 2 1/2 mnths. He hasn't seen her yet (we are on opposite coasts), but he has been calling and has even paid support without me taking him to court. He is taking baby steps, but he is taking steps. I just watch, wait , and see. I feel like whatever is meant to be will be!

Hi Renee. I have been in your situation before. With my first child I had NEVER met my boyfriends (at the time) parents, they lived in Vegas, me in Iowa. When we did breakup ( i was 5 mo pg) I called them and told them. they were a little hesitant at first, is it really his, but after paternity tests proved it to be his they welcomed my daughter with open arms. now they claim her but living far apart has definately put a damper on a relationship with them. so I say absolutely tell them.

TELL THEM!! im dealing with the same thing, my bf wants me to get an abortion but im confused. he doesnt want anyone in his family to know im pregnant, and person i think its b/c they'll tell him he needs to step up and be a man instead of presuring me into an abortion

I think you should tell them, but just as one said before, just be prepared for any type of reaction, Good or Bad.

Hey i told my boyfriends parents if he wont you should they need to know!!!

Renee- i think that you should tell them. he may want to keep it a secret from them but they have a right to know that they have a grandchild. they need to know how their son is and that he wanted to keep it a secret from them, they may be thrilled to be having a grandchild and if they are not then that is their loss. but they definitely need to know what is going on. good luck.

hey. i was in exacltly the same situation. me and my ex split up when i was 6 weeks pg.. i'm now 16 weeks and 2 days. when i was 14 weeks i had to force my ex to tell his parents he doesn't want anything to do with me or my babies ( im having twins) i thought hus parents had the right to know that they are going to be grandparents. you did the right thing. gl.