Should I Wait To Tell Him

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smiley3376 - April 30

I'm a little confused in my situation. my bf and I were together for three years, and then I ended up getting pregnant. We were going to get married and everything. At this point he started to get really controlling and we began arguing about everything. I ended up miscarrying at 6.5 weeks. He accused me of having an abortion and never bothered to ask how i was doing...but just pretended that it never happened. Well, we broke up after that. We went about 3 months not together and with absolutely no contact. we both missed each other terribly - although I knew deep down he's not the "right" guy for me. He ended up contacting me and we went to dinner. well...we ended up having s_x that night - something i definitely regretted the next day. i told him we couldn't be friends yet because i needed more time to move on because i couldn't let that happen again. so...that was about 2 weeks ago, right during my most fertile time. We weren't planning on that happening so we ended up just using the withdrawl method, not too smart i know...well anyway, now I'm beginning to think I may be pregnant. I'm supposed to start on the 2nd and I've been having a lot of symptoms that feel very similar to my first pregnancy. tired alll the time, peeing a lot, af like cramps really low in pelvic region, sore br___ts, lots of cm, lower back pains...I know all these could also be af symptoms, but for some reason i just feel like i know that's not what it is. Should I say anything to him? I'm really anxious because I don't know what he would think if i was. I just really want to talk to him (we haven't talked again since that night cause I told him I didn't want communication for a while) I feel like I need some sort of idea about where he would stand on this, because I'm going out of my mind wondering all the "what if" questions. Should I stick it out alone, or would it be okay to talk to him about this now? Please give advice! Thanks!

 

mommybabyboy21 - April 30

I say wait until your 100% sure that you are pregnant...otherwise he could see this as a game of getting him.

 

Terio - May 1

I absolutely agree with the previous poster. Do NOT tell him this, as you're not even late. He's not your friend, remember - he's an ex. If you want to talk about all the thoughts racing through your head with someone, then enlist your best friend. If it DOES turn out that you're pregnant, then deal with telling him then - but don't use him as a sounding board at this point in time. Good luck.

 

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