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I don't know what to do? I am 25 weeks pregnant and i have recently been on bed rest and been given the steroid shot because they say i am going to deliver preterm. My boyfriend throughout this pregnancy has gone out with friends and drinking quite a bit(3-5 times a week). We always fight about it because i want him to spend time at home during the night. He always says after a fight that he is going to stop and be home more but it has always gone back to the same. I kicked him out a 2 weeks ago and told him i needed a break away from him because i am sick of always wondering where he is, when he'll be home, who he's with etc. I went into the hospital 1 week ago and had to stay 2 nights. I went in at 5:00pm and got a bed at 10:00. He was there for about 1 hour during that time and when they moved me rooms there was no visitors after 9:00. He told me he would come back first thing in the morning at 9:00am when visiting hours started. Well, it's now 11:00 am and i am going for my ultrasound and he is not there. I came up from ultrasound at 12:00pm and my mom was there but still no boyfriend. He finally showed up at 1:00 and was late because he went out drinking with friends that night while i was in the hospital. Then that night he had a birthday party we were suppose to go to together, instead of staying with me he still went to the party at 4:00pm till all hours in the morning. When i called him in the morning he was so out of it that he heard nothing i said and i had to have my mom pick me up.
Ok so, i let him come back home that night to help out because i am on bedrest and i have a 4 year old already. He ended up going out every night this week, it was only for 2 - 3 hours and home by midnight these timesbut tonight he went out at 7:00pm and came home at 3:00am p___s drunk. We got into another arguement about it and i told him to leave. He sees no problem going out all the time and thinks i get way to mad about it. I have been on bedrest a week and have yet to sit and relax and watch a movie or anything together. I am so lost as to what to do, i do not want to be single with 2 babies by 2 diff dads. Am i crazy or am i right in thinking this?
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I hate to say this but it sounds like you would be better off without him. do you really want to be worrying all the time when he goes out? What kind of example is it going to set for your older child? you need someone you can rely on and is going to be there for you when you need it, it sounds like hes too immature to have a child and you should give him an ultimatium. Change for good no partying, no late nights, etc or get out for good! You dont need to be the stress during pregnancy or not during pregnancy to be fighting constantly, too much negative engergy.
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Learn from my mistakes. I kept "trying" with my husband even when he pulled the same c___p on me during my first pregnancy. Now i'm 35 weeks pregnant with our second child and he is the same exact way. And this time I AM leaving him. Raising a toddler and being pregnant pretty much by yourself because you have a selfish man is not the way to live, trust me.
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I'm sorry but if you have to ask you know the answer already. Sounds like you have 3 children! Let him go. Let yourself be free. Be brave and be proud of who you are. Embrace your pregnancy and your other child. Send him packing. Good luck
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I say you let him go...the baby feels your stress and pain and by you always feeling this way, you can really have a stressed out baby as well and you don't need that. He won't grow up and he don't sem to care about you or the baby and because of that he don't deserve to be taken in all the time whenever he wants to come back. That is not a good environment to raise a baby in and as it is the 4 year old shouldn't be seeing him the way he/she does. I'm sure that he/she has seen him drunk multiple times and no kid should have to witness that. Stress can cause labor as well and right now you need to relax and enjoy your pregnancy while you can and not get caught up in his mess. I can guarantee you that he will only make promises but he will always be the same.
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You need to thing about who is more important here him are you and your kids the answer is simple.
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