Single And So Sad I M Angry
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I am a 24 yearold mother of one daughter who will be two in May. Her father and I have had our fair share of break ups and make ups. We last parted ways for two weeks in Nov. and we got back togethr in the begining of Dec. That is when I became pregnant with our second child. I was terrified to tell him but when I did he was thrilled, until last week. I am now five months pregnant and we were fine then one day he just quit talking to me. It has been a week now and still nothing. We live together so this is hard. I moved all my stuff into my daughter's playroom and bought a nice air matress to sleep on. I left him the bed that was ours because I can't handel sleeping in there wondering when he is coming home. I left sheets folded on the bed and you know he still has not made the bed. He has been sleeping on a bare matress and pillow for a week now. I think he just comes home so drunk he doen't care about sheets. I am soooooo sad and dissapointed and all that has turned into anger and resentment. I just don't know what to do and I don't really have anyone to talk to so here I am in this chat room. Is anyone else going through this?
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i am so sorry for what you are going through. i know this must be hard on you especially while you are pregnant. stress is not good for you or the baby. maybe you should ask him what is wrong and tell him that it hurts you that he isnt speaking to you. i know you probably dont want to hear this but maybe it is time to move on with your life and leave him for good. obviously he doesnt respect you or he wouldnt do these things to you. tell him that it is really important that the two of you talk through your problems for the kids sake. it may just be something simple wrong but you wont know until you ask. good luck
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Thanks for responding. I have tried and tried to get him to talk to me and tell me what is wrong, but all he says is he doesn't want to talk about it. I have suggested counseling and everything and I get no response. So last night I started up with the texting everything I feel to him, which is really stupid considering he was roght down stairs in what used to be our room, but he had locked me out so I text his phone to get my feelings out. I told him today if he is going to continue to ignor me then he can not live here and I want him out by tomorrow and if he does not leave then i will movr his stuff for him. Pretty sad that at 29 he is going to live with his parents instead of being a part of this family. His parents are great by the way and very nice and supportive. Life is too short to be unhappy and I do not want to be this sad the whole time I am pregnant.
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maybe it is some kind of midlife crisis that he is going through. maybe he is scared and has realized that his life will change forever with a kid. some men are like that. they are fine at first and then they freak then once they see their kid they cant believe what a jerk they were. maybe he will come around.
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Yeah we went through that with our first daughter, I just thought that he would have grown up a little since then. I did get him to talk to me last night and his is upset because I get mad at him for going out after work. The thing is I don't mind him going for a couple drinks after work but he stays out till 3 or 4 am and doesn't answer his phone, so yeah I am upset when he does get home. I demanded counseIing or he can move out. He is thinking about it. I don't know really I think I am ready to settle down and build a strong family and he is still flighty and wanting to come and go as he pleases when at some point we all have to grow up and take responsability for our selves and our children. Thanks again for responding, I have never talked online to people I don;t know but it is kind of nice to get input from outsiders.
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Hi there, thanks for responding to my post violet, it seems most ladies are on the other side of the ocean (I think.) Sounds as if we are in similar situations as far as the non-communicatin' men thing goes. I think they (men) tend to give the excuse that since no matter what they say is "right," it's better to say nothing at all. Personally, that drives me crazy. I'd give him a choice, stay living with you and work things out or leave for a bit while he straightens his head out. It must be hard feeling like things are in limbo.
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Hey far away lady, while we are in different areas of the world we seem to have the same type of man. It is terrible not kowing what is going on or how things will be come time for the new baby to arrive. He says the same thing: He can't talk to me because nothing comes out 'right' so why say anything at all?" I swear whoever raises the men these days is going about something all wrong. However the longer he keeps this up the less interested I am in him. I woke up this morning and know he didnot come in until after 4 am drunk of course and I just feel like if all he wants out of life is to go out drinking and then sleep until he goes to work then he just needs to leave. Life will be easier with out his negativity. While having a bay alone on top of raising our two year old is really frightening, I think I can do it all need is some courage, strength and patience. Maybe if I focus I will have all that come August.
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