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can i get a hell yeah!!.. i dunno what it is either. seems to be love is blind hey. u think u have picked the best man in the world and slowly u find out what a looser he is. i had an ultrasound the other day and got pics of the baby looking straight at me... i swear seeing her look straight at me, gave me the biggest reality check. so i ended up leaving the father. we sorted lots out and have never been better. im lucky i guess but i think looking at these children and how precious they are. what do we need men for ne ways... good luck to all !!

I hear you ladies. I got preggo and my ex left me. He pretty much said he didnt want a baby. I did everything on my own and filed for custody and support. His new girlfriend convinced him to be a father. She will probably do all of the work on his visitation. It sucks and it hurts but I cant let that affect motherhood for me. My son is a very healthy and happy child. If you look at history, women were totally dependent on men financially and men could excercise more control over women. Nowadays more women are independent and financially stable....somewhat, so men think its just so easy for them to leave and let us do all the work. I think that is irresponsible. My sons father has another child by another woman. He doesnt help her out in any kind of way nor does he contact her. I think thats sad, but I plan to contact mother so that my son can meet his sister.

It's soo weird to think that guys can really care so little and be so blind to what they are doing in their lives.. its like they have tunnel vision and they dont see what they are doing and how they are affecting anyone else... one thing i will always remember is when my mother asked my ex who was supposed to be my best friend if he could not have a girlfriend while i was going through thepregnancy and for the first few months of her life because the baby needed to be his priority... and i remember what he told me "why should i have to make a change in my life... its unfair" ... and i didnt wanna be a controling ex or ne thing so i rolled over and let him have his way... and now that i look bak at it... my mother was right... the baby should have been his number one priority and i wish he had realized that at the time... but he didnt... and of course his girlfriend he was with through my whole pregnancy was a physco telling me to have an abortion... give my baby up for adoption... threatening to kill me and my baby and its like wtf ... and after the baby was born she didnt want him seeing the baby at all.. and she would flip when he did and break up wit him... so for the first few eeeks he only saw her on his lunch break from work in the middle of the night for 1/2 an hour... and she also didnt let him see his daughter on christmas or ne thing... because he wanted to maek her happy... and its jus like.... does he not realize he wont get this time bak with his daughter... i know when we were together he used to talk about how much he missed his son being little ( he has a three and 1/2 year old with another girl and i take care of his son like 3 times a week)but it's jus messed up... when his son was born he was with her through the whole pregnancy and first year and 1/2 of his sons life and was there everyday... and now hes missin out soo much on his daughters life and he doesnt care.... and its affecting his son too cause he misses his father and never sees him and i dont wanna do that to my daughter... if he aint gunna be there then he shouldnt bother walking in and out of her life like a stranger either... idk i guess im kinda venting... but like wtf.... does he not see more then jus himself... guys are sooo ridiculous... and i know i can do this on my own .. but sometimes i guess i jus wish i had someone to lean on... and i wish it was not the social norm to be ok with havin a kid with a woman and leaving her high and dry

if any of you guys listen to tom leykis and his leykis 101 thing on the radio you may get your answer regarding why it is young men do the things they do. of course there are women who also entrap men.....but it still tends to be the man leaving the woman in the cold...even despite the fact they said they would stand by her. it's very sad.... I know for myself...with my dd who was born a long time ago....I ended up becoming a single mom because her dad and I just did not get along. but he DID stand by his little girl... I would never voluntarily bring a baby into the world knowing I would be a single mom....it's sooooo hard. I feel for those who thought their LOs would have a normal family...only to have their hearts broken. Good luck to all of you!

A few years ago, before I had my daughter, I worked with a guy who was dating a young woman who had three children by at least two different men (not judging it's relevent). After dating for those whopping two weeks they had unprotected s_x and she got pregnant. Now he's p__sed because he has to pay child support for the little girl. He was even more p__sed that he didn't have the right to force her to have an abortion!!! I mean jeez they're garnishing his wages to pay child support to a little girl he can't even be bothered to meet. I was so angry I couldn't even spit out any words I just wanted to rip his face off. Apparrently he was an innocent bystander. The fact that she already had three kids wasn't a clue to her stance on abortion. DUH!! And the stupid (&&^^&% couldn't make the best of the situation by stepping up and being a father. Poor me poor me poor me. Argghhh!!

My soon to be ex husband and I got pregnant on purpose. He turned out to be something I never knew he was. I cry almost every day, because the baby will be here very soon.. and I know in my mind that he wont be there. He won't even help me out financially right now. I'm 7 months working in a warehouse. We haven't spoken in over a month. I have a two year old with another man, and even though we couldn't make things work he loves his son so much and he's active in his life. I for some reason thought thats how all men were. I am starting to wake up and realize that they aren't... and that some men take advantage of women when they're in a rough spot and then completely ditch. We created this life on purpose. I thought my unborn was getting a great man as a father. I'm slapped with reality. I never wanted to make the mistake of having a child with a man that I couldn't be with "forever".....but I did it again. I suppose I can't beat myself up over it too much, it was his choice not mine. I just can't believe people can just so easily walk away from a human life that depends on their love and support.