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I need advice or just comments on my crazy situation. I was engaged for 3 and a half years, then at the end of feb. we split up. I was going through a very hard time and moved in with two of my friends who are married. They have been married for a few years and haven't been able to have kids which everyone (all the rest of are friends) said that it was a good thing because they do not have a great relationship, actually they have a horrible one. Anyway problem is one night we all stayed up very late drinking (I was drinking away my sorrows) and the wife initiated a threesome, I did not want to but the situation just kept going. So anyway point is I am now pregnant, I moved out ( 23 living at home with my mother trying to go to college and work a full time job) I do not talk to my friend anymore the situation is too hard. At first I was mortified about being pregnant but now I know God would not have given me my baby by mistake, I find out the gender in a few weeks. I have always been very close to the father and continue to be. He of course wants to be aprt of the baby's life, he is the father and may be the only child he has. Of course I feel terrible for her, but I am the one who is having to deal with it. I think she has just blocked it completely out of her mind like is does not exist. I did not get into this situation by my self and my child will have his father around, not a part time father and full time.. the situation is just weird, he wants to be their for me now (emotionally) and after the baby is born. I just feel so alone even though he wants to be there he really cannot he is married. And she was involved when the baby was concieved. Its just crazy I have never even heard of a situation like mine before. I feel bad and care for him. I will feel bad if this splits up their marriage but they almost got a divorce every year that they have been together, I feel bad. I am confused. I do not know what to do.
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hey teet . is the guy the other guy? like your friends husband? if so, why didnt you guys use protection , or in that case birth control?
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It sounds like he is doing the right thing by you and your baby. His wife, who as you said initiated the threesome is just as responsible and can't hold it against the two of you that you ended up pregnant. I like what you said about God not giving you a baby by mistake, I think that is a really important thing to remember--for all of us. Myself included. Good luck to you.
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ash2, yes the father is my friends husband, being drunk is no excuse to being so stupid, but however because I was in a threesome I am using it as an excuse. I was not thinking and used very very poor judgement. But I am now having a baby. I am very exciting about it now, but I still have to deal with the very odd situation I have put myself in. "the web we weave"
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well if you want to be with him, then i would definantly wait untill or if he left his wife. and if you dont want to be with him , then just keep it as friends and let the child see the father when needed. however, i would never tell him/her the story of how he got here.i am very sorry to hear how the turnout was, but remember it isnt the baby's fault and he/she deserves to live. so im glad you are keeping it. good luck hon....
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Thanks for the input. I need it.
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