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I feel really bad for the guy because she could have been lying but on the other hand it is still his child and he is being a real selfish jerk about it. It's a complicated thing!

I was thinking that too, i do wonder if her medical records will come into play with this. I feel more bad for the little girl than anyone else. The statistics for girls who grow with out fathers are horrible. They are 112 time more likely to have children in their teenage years/ or out of wedlock and have a 92% divorce rate even if they do get married. I think I have double jeopardy as I have never met my father because he wanted nothing to do with me, then my step father abused me all of my life and later on after I forgave him disowned me because I have a biracial child. You just have on going problems with men if you dont have a Dad there to let you know how special you are.... I am really interested to see the outcome. There are several other forums and articles about this case on the web already......

I wonder what's going to go down with that because I read that, regardless of the situation (meaning even if the female told the male she couldn't get pregnant (even if it were a lie), that she claimed to be on birth control and wasn't (basically lied), that the male STILL has to pay for child support and is legally and financially responsible for the child. The only way he can get out of it is if he relinquishes his rights. It sucks to be the guy in the situation since it seems as though the female lied about everything. It also sucks that even though he didn't want a child and she snuck around and got pregnant purposely (like many women do, no offense to any women), he STILL is held responsible. Even though I'm a female myself, I think since she wanted the baby, SHE should take full responsibility of the baby. It just isn't fair to him or to the baby. Her actions may lead to the guy resenting the child. It's a crazy thing, but I KNOW it happens.

She could have had a condition that limited her ability to get pregnant and she was telling the truth. It's possible it was a one in a million thing that just happened. But I don't think he should be allowed to walk away no matter what happened. Think of the thousands of other women who are on birth control or tell their partners they are on birth control. Does that mean he doesn't have the responsibility of covering up just because he thinks there is no chance of conceiving? I think not. He's an adult and he should have covered his own bases just as much. I'm tired of seeing men act like the burden is on the woman just because she carries the child. And I'm not speaking from a bitter position because I am married with a husband who is a good father and is trying to talk me out of getting my tubes tied when I deliver this time. I just hate to see it go on out there and men grasp a sleezy straws to place the blame elsewhere. He should have taken responsibility for his own actions or kept it in his pants and to himself. And, Tjane, married men do it to their wives as well. Sometimes even that ring means nothing.

This is my opinion: If the girl can prove that she really DID have a medical condition and WAS on birth control, then I think the father should be held responsible. If the girl CAN'T prove any of this and it turns out she lied to the guy just to get a child then I don't think the father should have to pay the full $500... although I DO think he should have SOME responsiblity in all of this because he chose to have s_x and sometimes things happen.

It takes two people to make a baby. Bottom line is this: Does it matter if she was lying the whole time? No. If the male does NOT want to be a father, he can use a condom no matter what. HE should protect HIMSELF.

frankschick2001 AGREED! it takes two!!!! not one without the other and if he he really was dead set against having a child he should have worn 50 condoms !!! But lies suck too!