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I got pregnant right before I graduated college. The father left me when I was 2months pregnant. He started dating other people and continued to party. My roomates kicked me out b/c "they did not want to deal w/ it" and my family especially my dad were less than supportive. I had a friend and her family take me in and help me. My baby was born w/cerebral palsy, epilepsy and mental retardation. I often wonder if it was b/c I worked 16 hrs third shift every wknd and was continuously stressed out and extremely depressed.
Well, the father and I got back together about 2 1/2 yrs ago and we live together and everything. I just found out I'm pregnant again. He is not supportive at all and I know he does not love me. He does not want this child. I am extremely depressed and don't know what to do. I just want to cry all the time....even when I'm at work. I am so afraid if I stay depressed and stressed out during this pregnancy that this child will also have disabilities. I don't know what to do...any suggestions?
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I cant believe there has been no response. This was written a while ago so I hope your a bit better and I will leave you my email adress
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Your unborn child should be your main focus right now ,this guy sounds like he doesn't care about you.Don't put yourself through this he is not worth it.Feeling depressed and sad is not good for the baby.I wish you all the best and I hope you will make the best decision for yourself and your baby.
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hi im just new here..and since not ervryone has been reading my story or shall i say not everyone replied--well,as for me im proud that you have been working.im 6months pregnant and graduated last march.i even wanted to work but i dont want i might have a unhealthy baby because some of my friends had premature babies becuase of work loads and getting stress..i suggest dont work a lot-6 hrs a day is probably okay..so, you can sleep and rest everyday and take vitamins.
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Try to stat as positive as you can. He may not be excited because he is afraid this baby will have the same disabilities as the first. Remind him that it is partly his fault too for stressing you out and that you need his support through this. If he is still a jerk lose him and have strength in yourself to go through this without a man. Sometimes men only add to the stress of pregnancy. As for work you really should only work part time once in the thrid trimester if posible. You need all the rest you can get. Try to think of how your feelings and actions dierectly effect the little baby inside you and focus on its health and well being. Best of luck to you.
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Thank you all for your replies! Things are much better now. My hormones have settled down some and I feel much better. The dad has been really supportive also. I feel a lot better about things now. Thank you all so much!
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I don't think depression can cause disabilities it is genetic. So don't feel guilty you didn't cause it . Do you know what you want to do are you going to keep it or are you considering adoption?
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