Unwilling And Unsupportive Father To Be
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I am 7 1/2 weeks pregnant and 23 years old. I have been with the father to be for almost four years now (the past year on and off). When I found out I was pregnant, I called him to let him know we are expecting a child. He made it very clear he wanted me to have an
abortion. I tried to consider his point if view
but could not bring myself to do it. At first, he told me he would try to help as much as he could, but has already proved he is unwilling to help and is being very unsupportive.
One day, he sent me multiple text
messages of statistics of abortion. He refuses
to come help me as the pregnancy progresses. He made a remark the other day that he's so
happy he gets to work out and look s_xy while
I sit at home and look like a fat blimp. I had an early ultrasound yesterday and he offered
to come. I did not want to deny him if he was making an honest effort. I was so nervous
about the heart beat and he made the remark "It would be sweet if there was no heart beat". I want to keep this baby. He won't even give me any information of his family medical history. I am a recent college graduate and have a steady income and stable life. I am more than capable of rasing this child. I just feel so alone right now. I would really appreciate any advice at this point. I have no idea where to go from here or how to handle this. Thank you [3
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Your decision is made. Life will not be easy, but I am sure you will manage. The father sounds verbally and mentally abusive - why add this to your burdens. If he were marriage material I would suggest having him attend the delivery and keeping him close without pressuring him, but he is not. You have not had an intense relationship with him the last twelve months, so it's not like dumping him completely will tear you up. Go out and make some new friends, let it be known you are free to date. There are guys who will accept you as you are - an intelligent woman with a full time job, self-reliant, with principles, and with a delightful baby on the way. The best of luck!
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If you are single and pregnant, you don't have to be! Check out my profile for Facebook page information on finding a man that will love and adore you during and after your pregnancy, or search 'Pregnant and Single' in Facebook. I have also established a Yahoo group called 'PREGNANTNSINGLENLA' to put single pregnant women together with men who possess a strong s_xual attraction for pregnant woman. So, if you're still pregnant and single, that is purely your choice as you don't have to be.
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I really admire your determination to don't have an abortion... For men are easy to ask you to do that because they are not the one who are suffering for the emotional and physical pain of that. I'll tell you that you are not alone, even if you feel that you have a beautiful baby boy/girl inside you who will give you the strength to live day by day... I spent more than 3 months to realized this, the father of my baby is from Saudi Arabia, we had a beautiful relationship, and he was with me the first months of my pregnancy; when he had the opportunity to go back to his country "to visit" he went there and never came back, until now i don't know nothing about him and i suffered to much because of him but my baby girl is giving me everything i need to survive to this depression.
I hope this helps.
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Facebook page information on finding a man that will love and adore you during and after your pregnancy, or search 'Pregnant and Single' in Facebook. I have also established a Yahoo group called 'PREGNANTNSINGLENLA' to put single pregnant women together with men who possess a strong s_xual attraction for pregnant woman. So, if you're still pregnant and single, that is purely your choice as you don't have to be. There are men out here that will love you and really want to be with you right now!
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