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Im 37 almost 38, and am pregnant by a younger married man. I didnt know he was married until a couple weeks ago and by then I was four wks preg. He's a Sgt. in the Marines. At the beginning of our relationship he asked me my take on children and marriage. He stated that he was just finishing up a divorce (only thing left is the paper work) his words. And I told him that i very much want one or two children and Im really interested in marriage. So along we went on our happy way. Rolling in the hay almost every night with the intentions of pregnancy. then things started getting weird. Every other weekend he would just disappear. And the Mr. So-sweet-and loving, disappeared too. He acted more distant and his nightly "sleep w/the angles" texts' and his morning "good morning honey. Have a nice day" texts' stopped too. So I started questioning him and he said he wanted to break up because "I dont like the way you be trippin" that Im too jealous and that if I dont believe that im the only one then maybe we shouldnt continue seeing one another. Well he called and invited me to a base ball game and by then i knew i was preg. So I started dropping little hints. But much to my surprise He was like "dont say things like that, your not pregnant." and "Im not ready for a relationship" I was like whoa, why did ask me all those questions about marrriage and children then? He said he wanted to see if we were on the same page. But now he's changed his mind. I was devastated but not as devastated as i would be the next day when I get a call from his wife. Who had no idea about a divorce. Yes they were having problems but steadily working them out. Every other weekend was their discussion and reconcilliation weekends. And thats why he was disappearing. He told me every other weekend he had his daughter. Now hes telling me he never loved me and that he tired of living a lie, and I should get an abortion. So to h__l with me. right? Every night I cry and cant sleep. And I dont know what to do. I threatened to tell his command and he said (just today) that he already told his command and since he "came forward" and wasnt caught that he wont loose rank or his position in the marines.. So thats how are military looks upon infidelity? They support their enlisted men no matter how rotten and cruel this one has been. Not only to me, but to his wife and 5 year old daughter. By the way the wife is also 7 or 8 weeks preg. with his child. What a hero he is hugh? His wife and I emailed back and fourth for a couple days just to sort out the lies and confusion that we were dealing with, and wished each other well. She seems like a sweet lady, and like me didnt deserve what we got, from a man we both love and loved very deeply.