What To Do This Is Long Sorry
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Hey.. I'm almost 35 weeks along with a boy... 19 almost 20 a college student with a year left of school... I've got things going for me in life. It's getting real close to time for me to welcome my baby boy into this world and I need to make up my mind about a few things... I was hoping some of you could help. Here's my situation... Before I got pregnant, my ex was begging me to have his baby, we were engaged etc... Well He got his wish, I found out I was pregnant and it was over and him begging me to have an abortion for 2 weeks. Then about a month later he was calling saying he was sooo sorry he was just scared, he wants to be with me and our son. He wanted to live together- so I took a 12,000 loan out for a trailer and bought a nice one, spent all the money making it nice... He leaves me halfway through the process... Then about 2 months later (after I began talking to other ppl) he decided he wanted to be together again... Got me an even nicer engagement ring than before wanted to still live together, installed carpet in "our" trailer, painted "our' room etc. Then leaves again, and starts dating another girl... then calls and tells me he is sorry... I give him another chance (because I'm an idiot) and that lasts 2 weeks, I find out he is still seeing this other girl, and he breaks up with me again. Anyways, I was in the hospital this past Thursday and he was nowhere to be found... I told him everything that happened- and he replied that he didnt care if I died in the hospital, he doesnt care about me or if I'm sick etc. and I'm doing all this to myself. He told me not to call him again unless it was to tell him his son was born... After him saying that to me, I realized that if he has no respect for the girl carrying his child, that he is probably just going to be a dissapointment to his son. I don't want to bring my baby into that sort of thing. He has no job, lives with his parents and is in debt to his ears. He didn't even want our son to begin with, he hasnt bought anything for him, he went to 1 doctor's appointment and ultrasound. Our whole relationship was built on him making broken promises and being a dissapointment to me. I don't want that for my son. I'm contemplating not calling when the baby is born. Then he wont be there to sign the birth certificate and he'd have to take me to court for paternity/visitation. Then he'd have to pay child support. All of this would be hard to do since he has no job. I think this is how all of this will work... I'm not sure! lol.. If any of you have any advice please lend it to me!! I have myspace its www.myspace.com/kristap2006
Thanks
Krista
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Okay...So I have this friend who got pregnant as a result of a one-night stand. The guy is a jerk, because it was the civil thing to do she kept him informed of everything going on so that he would be involved, He never wanted to be involved during the pregnancy. Well after her son was born his family got involved. When her son was about 8 months she met a wonderful man that loved her and loved her son like his own, She married and they were really devolping a great family. But the constant problem is the bio father. He is constantly having to be in the picture and was even trying to get full custody of his son after she married. Long Story short, she now wishes that she would of never told the father that her son was born or involved him in any way...he never has contributed child support. Now the bio father is fighting her husband adopting their son and giving him his last name. Its not worth it...this guy is a complete A@# and has run off on you multiple times, would not be around for the child to support him financally or emotionally and would be a constant pain in your b___t. He would be a constant disappointment to you and your son. you are worth so much more than that and your son deserves more! You sound like you have your head on straight and that you want to be the best mom you can be. there are sooooo many men out there that want a good woman and mother. Just wait for the right one, it will be worth the wait. Since you said that he has no job and would not be a dependable source of income, I do not even think that it would be worth it to list him as the father, you could just leave that blank or have them put unknown, and give the baby your last name, this will make it so much easier when you meet Mr. Right who is going to treat you like a Queen and love your son as his own...Stay encouraged!!
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