What To Do What To Do -pg121661612955
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Ok, im 18, and my now ex got me pregnant, im about 5 weeks along, and i found out after i told him, that his EX before me, is about a month farther along then i am. He says he wants to be involved but i cant believe anything he says at the moment. Should i encourage him to be involved? Should i allow him to be involved? And i know that im not going to give my baby his last name. Any suggestions on what i should do?
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why would you considering "not allowing him to be involved..." !?!?!?! you should be very happy and hope he is involved in his child's life. its a bit bogus about his ex also being pregnant....does she know about you?? this one will be your babys half sibling.....can you befriend her?
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I would play it by ear and see if he actually does become involved or not. Every child and father has the right to be in eachothers life as long as he is not causing any harm or danger to the baby. It sounds like this guy needs to learn to wrap it up before he ends up losing his entire paycheck to ex's with his children.
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Luna, well im considering now allowing him to be involved because he is a lying snake. I havent herd from him since he left other then to tell me when he is getting his stuff. and yes his ex knows about me but doesnt believe that i am pregnant, and wants it, if i am in her mind, to live with her full time. He told me when i found out that i was pregnant that i should be getting an aborton. I would like him to be involved, if he got his act together and stoped the drinking and drugs....
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By your posts I presume you intend to keep the baby, regardless of his mentioning abortion. It doesn't matter if his ex believes you are pregnant or not. What you should do, is focus on your pregnancy and your child. Don't worry about him. And, when the child is born, send him child support papers, obtaining a paternity test if required by your state. As clindholm stated, play it by ear re: the father. Actions speak louder than words. You cannot control his actions, whether he is involved or not, and you shouldn't try to control it except to the extent his drug and alcohol use affect your child. The sooner you're ok with this, the sooner you'll be at peace with your situation. But do make it clear to him that you will be keeping the child and will be expecting child support from him, regardless of his situation with his ex and the existence of a half-sibling. You're 18 - you have to grow up to be the best mom you can - which includes making rational decisions based on what is best for the child, and not based on your feelings for him (positive or negative), what other people think or want, or what he does (or doesn't do). You will come out to be stronger for having gone through this.
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Also, for your peace and sake of sanity of mind, avoid drama with the other woman. What she does is her own business. You now have your own business to attend, so attend it.
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