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Hi I just found out today that I am pregnant for the first time and be about 5 weeks. I was with the father on and off and I am scared to tell him. When do you think I should tell him and how do I tell him? I be happy to raise the baby on my own as a single mother if it comes to that, Any advice will be grateful. Thanks.
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Hi 1st - congrats on the news! Thats great! Glad to hear you are comfortable raising the child no matter what. You really have two options - telling him now to make it known, or to wait a while to ensure everything is smooth sailing in the pregnancy before telling him. I think it also depends on how "close" you are to the father. Perhaps if you think the news will scare him or hell try to run from it, maybe you could wait a few more weeks. If you think he will be excited and this may bring you both closer together, get it out now. He may even question why your feeling so bad with nausea and morning sickness anyways. But its up to you! And again congrats on your news, thats wonderful! Good Luck in whatever you decide to do! <3
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Congratulations! Good comments from Island. Since you already know you are going through with the pregnancy, the first thing is to put away your fears of telling the father. Decide to do it in your own good time, at a moment of your choosing. You might decide that if he never calls again, you will not bother to tell him; or that the next time he invites you to be with him, you can wait for a suitable moment to ask him if he has ever considered how he would feel being a father. I'm trying to give you alternatives to blurting out "guess what, I'm pregnant". You can bring it up over dessert, walking in the park, or after s_x. Be strong! He will take it well if he realizes that you are not laying any expectations on him. Good luck!
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Ok thanks for the advice Island I have spoken to him a couple of times but still haven't told him just waiting for the right time I guess. So nervous. Lol. But once I confirm everything I will him for sure.
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Well the pregnancy has been confirmed and had a ultrasound last week and I told the father and his response was... Abortion! Should have known and I told him to get stuff and not gonna bothered any more with him and I am gonna be a single mum.
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it just goes to show how much they love you when they turn around and order you to kill the baby you made together. you are better off without him 1stTimeMum!! you deserve better than that. look after yourself and your little baby.
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1st you seem like a strong women... when pregnant with my son (now 14) i told the father and his response was "what about me" meaning himself.... I asked what about him i was going to have to carry the baby... he told me abortion too... couldn't do it..... i have raised my son by myself for 14 yrs. and we are doing okay..... not easy but doable.... with two parents its not easy.... hang in there and you will be fine.
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i think every guy that yells abortion should be kicked in the nuts. to be honest. if they weren't ready for a kid, they should have wrapped it up, or not done it at all. some guys just have their heads too far up their b___ts to think sometimes. that and a lot of them think with their southern parts more than their brain.
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Thanks guys. I feel better now thanks for your advice the worst part is that he lives 10 mins away from and we go 2 the same shopping centre but if I see him well I decide that when it comes that moment and he told me I know abortion is hard and i know its emotional, blah blah blah. Men! They fine with us and then we tell them we are pregnant and its like what about me! Grrrr.... Ah I feel better now that I have vented.
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