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Ken, it isnt that good girls like bad men..Its that bad men prey on good women. Deep down inside most women want a good guy who will love and care for us, but for whatever reason we seem to pick the bad apples. Dont give up there are a lot of good girls out there (myself included) who really wants and needs a good man in her life!

I agree with LonelyTears, that bad men prey on good women and we DO want true love. Seems like no matter where we meet the men they are no good. So good luck to you Ken77 ,one day you will find who your looking for.

My husband is 32 and I'm 25. He didn't have a date for over 5yrs when I met him. He's a big guy, but very cute. He had only been with 2women in his life. He had given up on ever getting married and finding true love. We met on sept 11th 04 and were married Sept 9th 05. So if anyone could tell you not to give up hope it would be him. He never expected me. We clicked from the moment we met and are very much in love and happy. He had given up. It'll happen Ken, sometimes it just takes a little longer for some than others. Believe me, they say that you find love when you are least expecting it and I totally believe that. You find it when you're not looking for it. Good Luck and it'll happen for you.(when you're not looking) :-)

I absolutely agree with these ladies, Ken, it's not that women are attracted to bad men. Women, for the most part, just want to be loved. We just want someone we can trust that will give back to us what we give to them. Unfortunately, there are too many men who take advantage of this need, and put on a good show until another woman looks better to them or until they realize that, along with love and commitment comes responsibility. A LOT of men are terrified of that concept, and unfortunately are not willing to put aside their fears and just grow up. I think that has a lot to do with why so many women that are really looking for love just end up hurt and alone.

Keep your victim mentalities. If bad men prey on good women, it's up to good women to know the difference. AshleyB on the other hand was able to get past shallowness to a good man. As KL said alot of men are afraid of commitment etc, but then there are guys like ken who never get chance for whatever reason. Ken you just have to weed out the shallow chicks and there are a lot of them. Then maybe you will find one like Ashley.

Thanks whatever:)

lol, I met my husband in band cla__s in high school. I was a little freshman cutie to be honest and a lot of guys were after me (bad guys). He was a senior and the first thing you think when you look at him is "nerd". Gosh but I love him. He was very shy. After he was in college for a couple of years he got ahold of my MSN address and we started talking. Then we went out on a couple of dates, fell in love, got engaged, got married and now we're waiting for our little addition. To be very honest, he is cute, but he's not hot. His nose is a little big and he's not very muscular, he has unruly curly hair, and well in the bedroom...he's not quite up to par. But he is the sweetest, nicest, kindest, best guy you'll ever meet and THAT'S what matters to me. A lot of girls, like my best girlfriend, won't give a guy a second look if he's not tall, dark, handsome, and extremely buff. And even though she sits there going "Mike can do push ups with me sitting on his back cross legged" all I do is say "That's nice Erin" and curl up to my man knowing I got the pick of the litter. So just wait and one day someone will see you for who the great guy you are and love you for it, it happened for my husband and he never thought it would.

My DH is far from a bad man and I love him more than anything. He is the greatest thing that ever happened to me (after our kids). I also was his first girlfriend because he was incredibly shy and not the typical "guys guy". He was/still is into D&D and he was in the chess club, big big guy at about 300lbs and 6'4, but all I could see was how sweet and caring he is and that makes him so s_xy to me. I think that the "boy scout" men are much s_xier than the "bad boy" men. If you are sweet and caring someone is bound to look past whatever it is keeping you from getting a girlfriend and love you for who you are. My DH gave up on even getting a girlfriend and now he is married and has 2 kids. Keep searching, someone is bound to find you. :o)

To "whatever" Im not playing victim here. I am not perfect and neither have some of the guys who I have met been that way either. I give everyone a fair chance in dating. Looks, money, etc dont matter so I am in no way shallow. I just havent met the right one. I have walked away from mentally unhealthy relationships because I DIDNT want to be a victim..so perhaps you are referring to women who LIKE to be in that position.

Because bad boys are super hot. Women want one at least once in their lifetime because it's dangerous and exciting. It's a super adrenline rush. After having a bad boy screw you over the rush ends and women go back to wanting a father for their children. And bad boys don't just prey on good girls. Bad boys will hook up with whom ever.

I was only referring to women who LIKE to be in that position. Seems you are the only one who was offended by it, so maybe the shoe fits. I know no one is perfect but how many a55holes do u have to meet/date before you can see one coming a mile away?

Sorry but bad boys are not "super hot." I would much rather sleep with a good man than a bad boy and wonder how many people I'm having s_x with when I sleep with him. Not to mention it's not exciting to wait a month for a guy to call you back and he never does. I would hate to wonder whether or not the guy I'm dating has any kids he don't acknowlege or a wife at home waiting for him. I'll stick with my good man. :o).

I think the girls liking bad boys thing is something that applies to younger females. EVERYONE, girls and guys are attracted (on some level) to things that are bad for them. Bad food, bad behavior, rebeliousness, bad men AND bad women. It's part of being human. I think it's a stage that MOST women outgrow. I liked the rebel type of guy when I was younger. But now, I would never go out with a guy who was unemploed, a drinker, a drug user, lazy etc. Maybe look for women who are a little older? If you are looking for woem in their twenties, you might be barking up the wrong tree. Not to say this applies to all women in their twneties, no way. I grew out of the bad boy thing before I was even 25 years old. I'm just saying, he should try dating older women and maybe he'd have better luck.

To whatever your an idiot..I was just stating my opinion because you posted that and it seemed to be aimed at my post. I guess your life is perfect and you have never gotten hurt by a rotten guy.. I love when people come on here and act like they know everything about everything..