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I am 21yrs old going on 22 wks preg. this is my 3rd child. i was previously married to the father of my 1st 2 and we split up 2 yrs ago. I am now preg by another man who i am deeply in love with, but i dont think he feels the same. we were broke up when i found out i was preg and he started to come around a bit but he still does not know wht he wants. there is another girl in his life and he still sees her and me on the side. i dont know if i should continue on this way or just forget about him.. i didnt ever feel this way for my x husb i thought i did but it was not this hard to leave him .. please tell me what should i do.. should i continue to b a single mom just like i have been for the last two years or if i should try to get him back.. any advice accepted.. please help
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If you even know that he is seeing another girl and you are just a "side piece" I would get rid of him. As hard as it may be, it will be harder to continue going on like this. You will not get the treatment you deserve being on the side and neither will your kids. Plus you don't want your kids to grow up thinking that being treated like this is normal or okay, do you? Good Luck!
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Yes, you have to set the example for your kids. Even at this young age, they are soaking in your behavior. Even if you make a mistake, make the right choice fix it.
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I would like to thank all of u.. that have responded. I do understand it is setting a bad example and my daughter is 5 and she sees all and hears all... but i just dont know how to get rid of these feelings that r there for him
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 | kim - January 19 |
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michelle .... will the pain ever fade ? yes....but you muct give it time and stay away from this guy . If he is being with someone , think about your baby . You don't want to give him/her a disease .
you have your whole life ahead of you. Don't let some jerk use you . You spoke of your five year old daughter ....well, right now you are teaching her to let a man hurt her .....let him go . Good luck to you .
I promise the pain will go away .
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I think you should just let him go... just do your own thing for a while. If later he decides that he wants to be with you and ONLY you.. and you still feel the same for him, then I would maybe give him another chance. But do not allow him to go back and forth. This is only going to cause un-needed stress on you and your baby. I also think that maybe the reason it was harder for you to leave this guy than your husband is because I'm guessing you've been together a shorter time with this one. Meaning you're still in the fresh stages of the relationship and not the "too comfortable to care" stage. You know? It's kind of like your husband was "been there done that" and this guy is "well... what could happen?" so it's still interesting. Give it time though, the pain most certainly fades. A year ago this month my ex left me when I was 4 months pregnant. Now I couldn't care less about him. I can really honestly say that I don't care about him or what he dose at all. (He's done some horrible things to be over the past year though... like get engaged to a girl he'd been dating for 3 months while I was 7 months pregnant, so that helped.. haha) Either way.. it's a fact.. time DOES heal all pain.
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