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hawaii i think you are making a big mistake. you are completely blinded into the whole 'he loves me, we have baby number 2 on the way etc etc'. the fact is that this man may well be the father of his ex wife's baby and you just both DONT want to believe it may be true, but sometimes you have to look at the situation and think, the guy is a cheat (therapy or no therapy), he could have easily gone back to his wife for a final brief encounter and not told you about it. you are doing what every person does when they dont want to believe something could be true, its called denial. im glad your family are doing well and he is a good father, as for marrying the cheater, well thats another hard lesson you will learn down the line. most men say their ex's are 'insane and complete b___hes' as a tactic so that if ever something happened and his ex told you about it, you would believe him over her straight away. men arent stupid and cheaters are the best liars of the lot!!

I agree with Cat. I am glad you are happy now but family is an investment in the future as well. I don't think either of you allowed enough time after his previous marriage to really a__ses what will be different now and in the future. I'm not going to say "once a cheater always a cheater" but the fact is that he has a very strong history of "family hopping." Please please be careful you are in a very sticky situation.

Oh and I can't believe I forgot to say this but HE LIED TO YOU about being married! How do you know he will not sucker in some other sweet girl on the side? I really hope he has SHOWN and DONE things to prove he's trustworthy again b/c he seems very very sneaky to me.

i agree Colleen. i know it sounds horrible to hear that a cheater will most always remain a cheater, but its the truth at the end of the day. if i was her i would not have allowed him to breeze back into my life as if he had never lied, never cheated, never done anything wrong, and then accept his marriage proposal (when its evidently clear what marriage means to him)! unfortunately though it always takes being hurt the hard way before people realise that they should never have wasted years of their life on this kind of person. i know because i wasted almost 4 years with a cheat, and they do it again, you have to ask yourself what makes you so special that he wouldnt do the same thing to you. he went out with another girl (who was supposed to be a mate) weeks afterwards and guess what? he cheated again on her, (she thought it was with at least 3 girls) but i'd witnessed him kissing probably around 8 or 9. liars don't deserve decent women and to totally believe him is a sign that he has brainwashed her. i bet he has said how nutty his ex wife is that many times that she really honestly believes it now. in reality his ex wife is probably a woman who is genuinely loyal and has been hurt so badly by him that she is angry and upset with him. but its all down to people's choices at the end of the day, im just glad i can see 'disaster' before i go anywhere near it, that way im not subjecting myself to the same pain he put his wife through. the sad thing is that the baby is probably his yet by denying it they can play 'perfecf happy families' then its the poor child that gets hurt, and that is just not right, however much bitterness they have.

His ex wife didnt even tell him that it was his baby until after we got married and she is due the end of the month. He will support her but when she got pregnant she had been living with a guy her bf and know he dumped her in january . He is a great father and as far me going right back to him he had to regain my trust which he has. I do believe him . Its not all blind faith i watch for the signs . He & i have an open line of communication. They both had already checked out of the marriage when i happened. I understand that things all happen for a reason . I do have to question him sometimes and he knows thats because of his history. But he will always answer me with out hesitation because he loves me. I know some of you doubt my decision to marry him but i thought long and hard about it and i am sure i made the right decision but i also say time will tell. He knows i have no problem leaving him if he cheats i am gone as fast as u can blink an eye.

hawaii i know perhaps i see cheaters in a negative way but thats from what ive seen and experienced. ive never known a cheat who hasnt then gone on to do it again and while it is nice to have faith in them and be the person who 'believes' in them, at some point they end up showing their true colours again and it doesnt matter who they are with and how good their relationship is, look at halle berry and cheryl cole, two of the most beautfiul women who have both been cheated on several times by their husband. i just think you shouldnt rule out that his wife's baby might be his. at the end of the day he told you he had troubles getting his wife pregnant, obviously though there is nothing wrong with his fertility and nothing wrong with hers, so it begs the question of whether the baby is his. personally i couldnt live with not knowing something as important as that, and nor could i live with having a niggling feeling of mistrust in my partner. it doesnt sound like it took long for him to regain your trust because within a year you were married to him and pregnant again. it seems he has had an easy ride and he is shrugging off the responsibility of his ex wif'e's baby as it will just cause him grief and earache from his new wife. how had he already checked out of his marriage? by cheating with someone? thats just nothing but a cheating coward in my eyes, and not someone i would dream of marrying and bearing children with but then each to their own.

his ex wife had a son on the 19th and we have been waiting to hear the paternity test of him and my husband was faithful it wasnt his baby it was her ex bfs baby like we figured. so he has been faithful to me since we got back together in september. So herbaby has a father who wants it to be his and my husband and i have our daughter and another one on the way which i am even more excited about now this mess is out of the way and we can rest cause he isnt my husbands baby.

so because its turned out not to be his baby means that he never slept with her again (even though he was screwing her whilst he was seeing and lying to you) and he has stayed faithful completely since. he has got you right round his little finger, no wonder he wanted to marry you straight away! a woman who has her blinkers on well and truly. sounds like he's got it nice and cosy.

alright Cat, she's obviously not getting the picture. Lets just lay off her, k?

lol colleen, nobody is having a go at her as everyone has to make their own decisions in life. but yeah i suppose there is nothing left to be said!